Filipinos who cyber-bullied #Amalayer girl showed worse behaviour than her

So I finally saw the “Amalayer” video posted on YouTube and I just had to ask myself, what the heck was the big deal? Why did this video go viral? It’s not even funny and there’s no way to tell why the girl, Paula Jamie Salvosa went ballistic towards the security guard at the LRT station.

Salvosa is currently the most vilified person on the Net by Filipinos because hundreds of thousands shared a video of her outburst. Most are quick to condemn her act without knowing the context or the details around why she raised her voice at the security guard. Unfortunately, the hate the video has generated showed an ugly side to our culture: most of us seem to have a mob mentality.

Judging by the number of people who posted angry remarks against Salvosa, it is safe to say that most Filipinos are quick to go on the attack mode without analyzing why they are doing so. This was also evident in the way they condemn former President Gloria Arroyo just because incumbent President Benigno Simeon “BS” Aquino keeps telling everyone she is guilty of the charges against her. Without any evidence to support his claim, most Filipinos agree that she is guilty. But I digress…

It is quite disturbing how Filipinos let themselves get carried away by footage taken without permission and taken out of context. Those who were quick to say that Salvosa was foul and disrespectful without getting the facts are being judgmental. I could not even hear what the guard and the others around her were saying. Her voice may have been louder than the rest but that could simply be because her voice is naturally loud. It seems to me that Salvosa is a very outspoken young woman. It’s not everyday that we see someone who can speak her mind.

When I saw the video, I could actually feel her frustration. Whatever the security guard did or didn’t do is beside the point. The point is public transport in the Philippines sucks and anyone who has no choice but to take the LRT, MRT, bus, jeepney or tricycle can be pushed to the edge of sanity. Take riding the LRT and MRT for example, it’s bad enough that commuters have to deal with rude passengers; commuters also have to deal with tough security before riding a packed train.

Going to and from work is simply not straightforward when you live in the Philippines. It is a nightmare even when you have a car and it is hell when you are using public transport. Before you can get from point A to point B, you have to deal with a lot of inconveniences. Like, who the heck wants their bags checked constantly? Not me. It’s an invasion of privacy. Why the heck is there a need to check people’s bags in the first place? Okay, they are checking for weapons that could put other people’s lives at risks. But the thing is, whether it is at the LRT or at the airport, it is always annoying to be regarded as a terrorist especially when you know that the only weapon you have in your bag is a red lipstick.

The constant need to inspect people’s bags is another indication that Filipinos do not live in a safe environment. This says a lot about the distrust Filipinos feel for each other. Those who have traveled abroad should know that other countries do not feel compelled to heighten their security in their public transport system. While in the Philippines, even entering a shopping mall has become comparable to entering Fort Knox.

Let’s face it. The number of security guards and security checks Filipinos have to go through is a clear indication that Filipinos do not feel secure living amongst each other. This could be the reason why Salvosa had to keep asking, “Are you calling me a liar?”

Salvosa’s act of frustration complete with flailing arms, almost to the point of pulling her hair out, could also be a sign that she had it up to her eyeballs dealing with the idiocracy of the country. Like what I said in my previous article:

We all know that behind the facade of smiley faces, most Filipinos have their own collection of tales of woes ready to be told. From one’s daily harrowing experience on the road going to and from work dodging potholes and irritable, unruly motorists who, if you are lucky, may even slap you in the face or if you are unlucky, may lodge a bullet in your brain. Even more distressing is the experience of dealing with neighbors who find a way to invade your privacy in the most blatant way possible; or for some, dealing with relatives who give new meaning to the word mooching. Experiencing these things on a regular basis could drive people over the edge, indeed.

The condemnation of Salvosa’s act could be because Filipinos are not used to seeing someone who openly questions authority. Most Filipinos are more used to people behaving like herds being shoved into their cages for the slaughter. They condemn Salvosa for being “different” and for standing up to her rights.

Likewise, it seems to me that the condemnation of Salvosa’s act has more to do with her speaking in English. Filipinos can be very sensitive to the way their compatriots speak the country’s second language. While most members of the international community would understand it if we do not have the right “twang” when we speak English, most Filipinos are very particular about the way their compatriots pronounce the English language. One wonders again if Filipinos hate each other, because people from other countries who speak broken English do not make a big deal about it. Why are Filipinos so tough on each other? It doesn’t even motivate some of us to go for excellence. It actually makes some feel self-conscious and completely forego being more proficient in English.

Obviously, Salvosa’s haters didn’t like the way she chose to express her disgust using the English language. There is something to be said about Filipinos who make fun of their compatriots who prefer to express themselves in English. Some would say that people who speak in English are being snotty. Others would even say that Filipinos who use English in communicating are being unpatriotic. Never mind that proficiency in English can actually provide individuals with a better future. One can be forgiven for thinking those who say these things just can’t keep up with the rest of the English-speaking crowd.

Having said all this, that Amalayer video is a big deal because it did reveal a lot about us Filipinos as a people. It is not just Salvosa who is in the spotlight, unfortunately. The person who took the video and the people who shared it and made fun of her are all under scrutiny. Those who think they have the moral high ground should think again. Bullying and harassing someone on the Net is wrong too especially when there are two sides to every story and only one side is highlighted.

Unfortunately, after all the brouhaha, this #Amalayer circus will not even improve the public transport system nor improve the behavior of the passengers. If they really can’t stop cyber-bullying, Filipinos would be better off doing it to their public servants instead of people like Salvosa. And maybe, just maybe, they would be compelled to do something about the country’s decrepit public transport system.

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Manny Alvarez
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I found it hysterically funny. The video itself I mean. But to be clear, I would find it funny no matter WHAT country it came from because sometimes, its nice to know that I’m not the only one that had/will flip out like that. I can relate. The whole cyberbullying thing is stupid though. It just shows a lot of pent up frustration. Normally, bullies learn their behavior from elsewhere and unless taught otherwise, continue. It just makes me wonder. #1 Where do they learn their behavior from? (thats a very deep question when you think about it) #2 Who… Read more »
Jspice
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Pinagtawan ko si girl ay hindi dahil nag iinglis siya dahil puwede naman siya pumunta sa supervisor at mag reklamo kaysa mag wala siya sa gitna ng daanan. Imagine mo, nasa LRT ka, rush hour tapos may mag wawala sa gitna – Mas stressful yun kasi maraming tao manonood meaning magkakatraffic, lalong iinit sa station, stress kana nga DAHIL ” tough ” and security, ma stressess kapa dahil may divang nag wawala sa gitna – lalong nag tagal ang pag sakay mo sa tren. Ang sabi ni Lady Guard si girlalu daw ay hindi dumaan sa tamang proseso bago pumasok… Read more »
timlibunao
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There is always a better way in saying things. The lady overdid it.

Don
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I cant agree with you more. Period. Same for this blog post its a waste of time. Cyberbullied? Isnt it bullying considered – going ballistic in public? Geez.

joeld
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@ don

if you think that Ilda’s article was about Salvosa, then you’re dead wrong. Read again.

BTW, Ilda, good read.

Reon
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And two wrongs make it right? right? ;p #pitchforkmobs

wreck it
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the second wrong can make it right, its not right to kill but if you killed someone for example a hostage taker to save someones life ,that wrong to kill, made everythin right

cogito ergo
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there is no video that shows the context of the incident. ilda is right in defining the mob mentality of the pinoys.

Albert
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Yes she overdid it, and all of those who bashed her did the same. What if sayo nangyari un? Example naka away mo ang kapitbahay mo tapos na video ka, Well of course sasabihin natin na “di naman ako ganun”. Lahat tayo may araw na mainit ang ulo natin, yun bang irita tayo sa lahat ng bagay.

jem
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I’m more likely to be frustrated at her for the mere fact that she considers herself “may pinag-aralan” and yet has manners as crude as that of a “palengkera”. These are the kind of attitudes that make Filipino culture stigmatize the elite, the educated or at least kababayans who prefer to speak English. Along with telenovelas, this gives the masses a bad picture of how it is to be “educated”. Ignorance and “follwing your conscience” is thus met with admiration by the average Juan Any well bred person would never stoop so low. He/she would be noble enough to just… Read more »
jem
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And to add, she may not have deserved being “bullied” online, she should have seen it coming before she did it. Social media can be powerful. Just make sure you’re not on the wrong side of the barrel.

Cecille
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Kahit me pinag aralan ang isang tao–pero daming mga graduates na walang trabaho,nakaka frustrate yun,kaya minsan nakaka init din ng ulo…kahit gano pa kataas ang pinag aralan mo-minsan naghuhuramentado tayo, dala ng frustrations -it’s called HUMAN BEINGS. We are No effing saints…so dont be too judgemental..

beljamima
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Give respect,get respect. Yan ang una kong natutunan the first day i joined the service. I have 5 people working under me,more junior yet none of them that i have yelled at nor nasabihan kong mali ang ginawa nila sa harap ng iba,if they are i make sure its in a closed door and kami lang naguusap. Another thing is she is doing her job and that is part of her job to inspect your bag and what inside of it. Been on a ship for 5 years and still when were on watch we have to do random checks… Read more »
joeld
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And the problem with security is not solved by pat downs and bag inspections. Let’s face it, a pat down cannot deter a mandurukot in LRT. But if you fear about terrorists, then I think a simple pat down, is not the answer. Its like suppressing the symptom, not the cough commercial.

Pablo Heres
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Dear author, when in the Philippines I’d rather have my bags and pockets checked and re-checked than have a I.E.D. (Improvised Explosive Device) explode in a sardine can like packed MRT/LRT. It happened tragically before in the LRT (year 2000) and in buses and who says it won’t or can’t happen again. Most recent was Jan. 2011 I believe, my question to you is would you rather have your “privacy” or your brain matter splattered all over the floor of a bus after an IED explosion? Your naive comments about security is very dis-concerning. Please research your facts about public… Read more »
joeld
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Security checks is not a sure way to prevent your bombings. You think the terrorists who plan to bomb the train didn’t think of that? Now the objective of security checks in the LRT stations are becoming more vague to me. They cannot prevent mandorukots obviously.

cogito ergo
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it is true. after talking and blogging about this issue for a time, snatchers and pickpockets will still be waiting before and after the LRT ride.

Rej
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well..why you wrote a blog about it. so maybe you are one of those people who has the “TIME” for this #amalayer thing…you probably have the same reason. They have the freedom and the time to say (write,blog,tweet) something about it.

boy bawang
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This author is much worse than Rigoberto Tiglao of Philippine Daily Inquirer..

Super C
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Correct. And she simply doesn’t want to shut up.

Anti-V
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Ha, boy bawang and Super C were owned. 😛

DaidoKatsumi
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It seems you’re trolling.

At least Tiglao is much better compared to the joke known as Conrado de Quiros. Am I right? 😉

Trosp
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Daido,

LOL…

Comparing Tiglao with Quiroz is like comparing heaven and hell.

That idiot Quiroz…

Gogs
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@daido. probably entry level troll. Maybe not given permission to copy paste yet like Fishball.

DaidoKatsumi
Guest

Or maybe that boy bawang guy IS Fishball. XD

Well, time to delete his suspicious wolf-in-sheeps-clothing comments.

Jun Y. Viray
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You reap what you sow! Be responsible for your actions, more so if you asked for it. The next better thing to do after an explosive discourse and a consequent backlash via “cyber-bashing” is to make amends, regroup, rehash then resurface as a new-born little baby-girl! Make the world a better place to live in! Avoid noise pollution. Make Peace.

alconce
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Our spanish colonizers made sure that we all be timid so as to prevent us from questioning their authority. They used their missionaries as fronts to ensure blind faith and their soldiers to silence those who dare. Up to now, we still are a timid nation. An outspoken obscure girl in a sea of timidity is a whiff of fresh air from this blighted nation. And how about the guy who took and posted the video? I can’t help but suspect that he is a closet voyeur. Why only tiny bits of info about him?

Super C
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The condemnation of Salvosa’s act could be because Filipinos are not used to seeing someone who openly questions authority. – Ahahahaha. Posts like this make me miss the old Get Real Blog. Lol

anonymous
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@Ilda kala mo naman kung sino kang matalino jan. hak hak hak.
this is the new age, expect people with different personalities. too bad salvosa is on the lower side. think, ikaw din magiging biktima ng bullying d2 kapag nagkamali ka, kaya tumahimik ka na baka bumalandra pa sayo mga comment mo.

//you can stop me, but you can’t stop us all

Amir Al Bahr
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You don’t have much of a point. Run along now; this is a forum for grown-ups.

Daido Katsumi
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@anonymous

Wala kang alam. BTW, ang sarap maging POINT MISSER. If you know what I mean…

joeld
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@ anonymous

Go home, boy, your nanay is looking for you, pinabili ka lang ng suka, nag internet ka na.

Yap
Guest

What are you 4’11”? Can you please grow up?

Amir Al Bahr
Guest

Ilda, the stupid angry mob is going to start calling you Salvosa’s paid hack soon. Filipinos are so predictable every time they encounter something like this: Carabuena can attest to that. Filipinos collect into an angry mob, they condemn the subject prematurely without knowing the details of the entire incident, and they think that the subject’s whole life should be destroyed just to appease some sort of bloodlust that stupid Filipino mobs have

RChavez
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Sa personal kong pananaw, ang Filipino ay “matigas” pagdating sa kapwa Filipino at may ugaling dagling nagkakalat ng nakitang kahinaan ng iba sa dahilang ito ang paraan upang mapagtakpan ang mga pansariling kahinaan at maipakita ang pansariling “kahusayan” at “kahigitan”. Kahit papaano ang Filipino na laging aba ay nakasumpong ng “takasan” sa “kahinaan” ng iba. Marahil ito ay sintomas ng hindi namamalayang pagkamuhi sa sarili dulot ng hindi maunawaan at sapin-sapin na kahirapan, personal man o panlipunan.

louie
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Grabe ka naman llda ! ( yung ginawa ni Paula na pagmamalaki “pinag aralan nya” yun ang ikinagalit namin ! ) So wala kang nakitang dapat na ika-bully ke Paula ??? (anong klase kang tao????) tsk,tsk !! She (Paula) deserves all the bullies and insults she are getting right now !) (If I was there at the time of her bursting I wont hesitate to interfere and tell her to shut her mouth ! ano feeling nya ? porket may pinag aralan sya (w/c seems mukang wala!) pde na sya manigaw ng tao!!!!!!!!!!!!) Sorry you look like her ! Yes… Read more »
Yap
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Article III. Bill of Rights of the 1987 Philippine Constitution states:

“Section 1. No person shall be deprived of life, liberty, or property without due process of law, nor shall any person be denied the equal protection of the laws.”

So even you see her or him doing a bad day attitude, that one still deserves to air his or her side with all the might of the due process of law..

Libertas
Guest

agree.
whats the big deal
the low level of customer service and attitude often drives me to distraction, frustration and despair.
then people act like lemmings in condemning rather than understanding the context or relating it to the bigger picture.
little people venting their anger on the weak – mmmm, remind u of anyone. it must be part of the culture/dna

Libertas
Guest

The psychology of filipinos is rooted in
– community – ‘we stand or fall together…
– cinformity – …but don’t stand out from the crowd’
– catholicism – ‘i will try my best, let god provide the rest’

The result is asian collectivism, not western individualism, which often explains why they can be easily manipulated and conned by scam schemes or politicians false promises. No analysis or ability to rationally differentiate.

It also means that many are quick to jump on the bandwagon – whatever that happens to be – because they act as groupthink and will follow the leader, even over the cliff.

RF Garcia
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I watched the Amalayer episode and you are right Ilda. Much ado about nothing. People perhaps mistake the way Ms Salvosa speaks for arrogance but that is really the way our young people speak. The way our TV broadcasters speak are far worse and that is what the young Pinoys copy. Our newscasters try very hard to insert English and they end up with wrong grammar and wrong accents in both languages. So why don’t we get angry with these newscasters who are doing much more harm to our millions of viewers who are mostly the young who love to… Read more »
wantonman
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Based on what I have read so far, here’s the story. The girl used the incorrect entry/ exit. The girl was apprehended by the guard. The girl felt insulted by this action and decided to go on a tirade. A commuter decided to take a video and post it online. Online viewers watched and the opinions started to flood. Here are things which I observed based on daily commutes using the FAR WORSE PNR, as well as daily dealings with other people. 1) Pinoys are always looking for shortcuts. This incident does not surprise me. Stay in any public transit… Read more »
MM
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I agree

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