Facing Reality Is The First Step To Progress

I have never really been a big fan of boxing and, while I support Pacquiao during his fights, I’m not really all that crazy about him. After all, it’s supposed to be a game. Victory or defeat is never certain and it can only be decided once the fight is over. Anyway, while I might not be all that much of a boxing fan, I heard something from one of the Rocky films (I forget which) that really inspires me to this day. Here it is just in case you guys never heard it:

achievement“I’m gonna tell you something you already know; the world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it’ll beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and still keep moving forward. It’s about how much you can take and still keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth but you gotta be willing to take the hits and not pointing fingers saying you’re not where you want to be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that!”

Look guys, let’s make things perfectly clear here. Life isn’t easy and it never will be. Life isn’t fair and that’s another thing you just have to learn to live with. You can’t win all the time and, sooner or later, life will bring you down. One way or another, you’re going to fall to your knees. Life will make you cry and bleed for all your worth. But things don’t have to end there. Remember that when life brings you down, you still have to get up. You have to stand up again and move on. If you really want to get anywhere, you have to struggle to your feet and keep fighting. 

What’s sad is that for the common Filipino, things that are often difficult but rewarding are often overlooked in favor of things that are easy. As I have stated many times in many previous articles, many Pinoys associate the word “good” with what is “easy” or “convenient”. It’s notable that so many Filipinos fall for scams but are not willing to admit to the fact that they allowed themselves to be fooled and victimized by criminals. Take for instance the fact that the political scumbags that are in power today are all too often the result of our own less-informed and less inclined to thinking kababayans voting them into power. 

As mentioned in my previous article, the inability of many Filipinos to see beyond what is black and white is one of the primary reasons a lot of our less educated brethren are unable to decide properly on who to vote for. As it is, choices involving permanent positive change is never easy. To reach these goals, we must be willing to make sacrifices and not just sit around and leave everything to just one person. What’s worse is that when that one person finally fails or gives up, we blame them and call them out on being lazy or dumb even if we’ve given them so little to work with.

If we want positive changes in our lives, both as a people and as a nation we first need to be willing to make difficult choices. Please take note that the hallmark of maturity is the willingness to the right thing even if it hurts. You do not expect to go into a battle and come out unscathed. Somewhere along the way, you will be struck down and forced on the ground. Unfortunately, instead of getting back up and continuing the fight, here are some common Pinoy reactions:

“It’s Too Hard; I Can’t Win Anyway!”

This is why poverty is an ever-persisting problem in the Philippines. So many people are unwilling to try again after getting defeated. It’s sad to note that there are those who are willing to make sacrifices for the good of all but everyone else just want to sit in the sidelines and watch than to contribute to the effort.

While I have always been a fan of Dolphy films, I was somewhat saddened by the message of some of them. In some of these films, he plays the role of a poor man with a rich wife or daughter. While I like the sense of acceptance found in these films, I will note that the protagonist played by Dolphy never even thinks of improving himself or his family. He is simply happy being poor and keeping his family poor. This is how the media convinces people that being poor is a good thing. This is how the impoverished are conditioned into simply accepting their fates as the “poor” instead of pushing them to strive to better themselves and their families.

“I Was Cheated!”

Ah, the victim card, just another of Filipinos’ favorite pastime. While not as common as the one above, there are no shortage of people who are willing to play the victim card either. People complain constantly about the system being unfair to them without making any real efforts to change things. 

People allow themselves to be fooled by things like “easy money” and “instant gratification” instead of going for something that will bring about steady and positive changes. When asked who cheated them, there are even those who go as far as to blame God, the universe or destiny for screwing them over. Well, one can argue that bad things happen in our lives from time to time but when bad things happen all the time, maybe it’s time that you made some adjustments.

“It Wasn’t My Fault!”

Like the victim card, the blame game is another ever reliable excuse Filipinos like to use. Instead of accepting their own faults when they fail, some will blame others for their troubles. 

No one wants to take responsibility. No one wants to be them. In the end, no one wins and everybody loses. Is this really what we want for ourselves and our children?

As the quote above says, if we want to get anywhere, we should get up and fight and not waste our time moping about what was and what could have been. While justice and accountability are certainly important, let us first work on the tasks at hand before we try shoving responsibilities in each other’s face. 

We Filipinos are in love with our pride yet we are all too often unable to live up to what’s expected of us…

 

 

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” We Filipinos are in love with our pride…” If that is true, then that is the root of the problems. Pride blinds — it can’t appreciate reality as pride over-rates oneself. And that is why narcissism blinds absolutely — one is obsessed with oneself and can’t see what is beyond oneself. I think pride is often confused with self-confidence which has nothing to do with pride. Self-confidence can only come from humility which in turn has nothing to do with bringing down oneself for that is called false humility. Humility sees reality for what it is for it always… Read more »
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PRIDE PRECEDES THE DOWNFALL OF A MAN… I forgot who said that…

Dick S. O'Rosary
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Bible is replete with stories of pride leading to downfall.

Carlo
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The problem is that we cannot distinguish humility and humiliation.

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.. “Facing Reality Is The First Step To Progress”

INDEED, IT IS.

But, what is reality??? Since Rene Descartes made Cogito Ergo Sum (I think therefore I am) famous, subjective reality has been given pre-eminence. Objective reality is something almost repugnant to modern man. There are seven billion plus living homo sapiens; thus, 7B realities. Or, what is called the tyranny of relativism — every one is right, nobody is wrong, or the over-emphasis in political correctness.

ChinoF
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One challenge is for Filipinos to learn to distinguish reality from fantasy. The telenovelas and local TV just give too much fantasy that affects their life choices. For example, look for a rich haciendero to marry. Duh.

Hyden077Toro
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Life is what you make it…it is not a “Bed of Roses”. Adversities in life make you tough. Failures make you Wise…unless, you are a mentally retarded person. I believe in “Reaching for the Moon”…”if you Miss it, You will Land among the Stars…” You have to look the Reality in yourself…what talents, education,skills,you have. How high your IQ/EQ . Then work very hard to improve and use them. Patience is bitter, but the Fruit of Patience is very sweet… If you work hard and willing to sacrifice…your high Goals can be achieved. “Whatever man can conceive, it can be… Read more »
Hyden077Toro
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Don’t sell your Dignity to Crooked Politicians, and become their Defenders/Apologist…
Your Dignity matters Most….

Hyden008Toro
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“Whatever the Mind of men can concieve. It can be achieved”…it should have read that way…

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..”This is why poverty is an ever-persisting problem in the Philippines.” Ahh, poverty. Let us see what we are talking about. 1. The Economic Class Structure By Statistics Description Class Percent Remarks Wealthy A 1% (Rich,even by world standards) Well To Do B 2% Upper Middle C 4% Middle Class D-1 19% Non Poor D-2 48% (hand to mouth existence) Poor E -1 13% Absolute PovertyE-2 13% (Indonesia – 7%, Vietnam -9%)* TOTAL 100% — * — Indonesia and Vietnam show improvement in Class E-2, while Malaysia and Thailand have practically wiped out this category. Philippines, at 13%, seems to… Read more »
Pallacertus
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You really should be making a few articles here in GRP. That’s what I’ll say at the moment.

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..Thanks, Pallacertus and Grimwald, if you think my comment contributed something. I prefer staying here in the combox. First, because I don’t think Benign0 could afford me — hahaha, that is a joke. Of course, I would be willing to contribute anything to any good cause for free. But, writing an article up there means hard work — one has to think of ideas and be sufficiently attuned to what is going on, and I don’t have time for that. I enjoy popping in and out of this site contributing and learning, but there are certainly days, and even weeks,… Read more »
benign0
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Do let us know if you change your mind though.. 😉

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Thanks, Benign0. I’m flattered. Maybe, when I take a sabbatical from work, but which I see I can not have in the near future.

Pallacertus
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I don’t know about crusades (and frankly have doubts about clothing oneself in self-righteous clothing, as if the world is Catholic and not catholic), and could give a fig about going viral (though I could understand the appeal couched in general terms), but I do like people who seem like they know what they’re saying and have thought a great deal about what they’re gonna say before saying it, even if I think they’re not altogether right or altogether sound or altogether practicable or altogether agreeable to my eye — — and at the bottom, bookworm as I am, I… Read more »
d_forsaken
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Anything was better than nothing. Half-full was better than empty. Ignorance is the lowest form of humiliation and suffering. And that is the bitchy reality of the Failippines.

Which is the true nightmare, the horrific dream that you have in your sleep or the dissatisfied reality that awaits you when you awake?

The Failippines cannot bear very much reality. There is no reality except the one contained within them. That is why so many Failipinos live such an unreal life. They take the images outside of them for reality and never allow the world within to assert itself.

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..Oh, I see where you are coming from; an intellectual who loves great novels. I must envy you for that for it’s been a while since I had a time for masterpieces. It makes me want to pick up one now if only I could find the time. Self-righteousness, or to some people, the censoriousness and the negativity, that this site seems to project may be a fair assessment if the comment boxes are heavily moderated. But, it is not, and you wonder why. Other sites immediately censor a comment that offers an opposing point of view, and of course,… Read more »
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Oh I forgot to address this to @Pallacertus. More power to you, man.

Diego
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Daming skyscrapers ngayon sa Metro Manila. Magagandang tirahan pero magkano at sinu-sino lang ang makaka-afford? Panay middle to upper class din. Maganda sana ‘to sa growing population sa lungsod ang kaso mo hindi balanse sa kita ng mga tao. Gusto nilang mag-invest mga OFW sana turuan kung paano mag-invest o magsimula ng negosyo. Madali namang magsabi talaga sa tao kung anong dapat gawin pero gustuhin man, mahirap talaga kung hindi alam kung paano o saan magsisimula. ‘Di ba nga kilala ang Pinoy sa pagiging mga followers at workers hindi entrepreneurs o leaders? Maging ang mga entrepreneurs at leaders natin ay… Read more »
LA702
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@ Diego Diyan ka mali kaibigan. Nuong magbakasyon sa Manila ang kapatid ko, hindi niya inisip na makituloy at makaperhuwisyo ng kamag-anak sa Manila kaya nag-research siya ng hotel na kaya ng budget niya for a 21 days vacation sa Manila at Baguio. He found a place called AurumOne in Makati. It is not located in the best place in Makati but it is brand new with 63 guest rooms on 8 floors. Hindi ito ang magandang balita, the the best news is nalaman ng kapatid ko na ang AurumOne Hotel ay pag-aari ng tatlong libong OFW…yes 3,000 OFW’s na… Read more »
Diego
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Salamat sa impormasyon, kaibigan. I searched for it and here’s what I found. http://www.usnewslasvegas.com/national/vp-binay-leads-opening-of-hotel-co-owned-by-ofws/ If this is the case, it’s good news for OFWs. Knowing that there are organizations that could help them invest their money on profitable endeavor could mean a bright future for them (thus for our country as well). Still these are private sectors helping them out but, yes, it’s good news that a group of people or an organization don’t wait for the government to do what they themselves could do better. I bet majority of our OFWs are still unaware of this since there’s a… Read more »