Do Filipinos suffer from narcissistic personality disorder?

It’s official. I finally got confirmation that a lot of Filipino men are so into themselves. I thought it was just me but a recent survey conducted by global market research company, Synovate Inc. revealed that 48 percent of Filipino males felt they were sexually attractive. This revelation made another global media outlet, CNN International conclude that Filipino men are the most narcissistic in Asia.

I have always wondered why a lot of the men in the country carry this look about them that seems to say, “I can give you a good time.” And I don’t know if I should be happy or sad with the news that I was right about my assessment of most Filipino men after all.

On one hand, I should be happy because now I know how to deal with them, which is to avoid them like the plague. On the other hand, it makes me sad knowing that there is very little evidence that a cure for narcissism exists. I mean, how do you make someone admit that they are so arrogant? It is possible, but you will have to devote an entire lifetime talking some sense into them. And if the survey is accurate “ that almost half the population of Filipino men is conceited – the implications of this are very serious, the least of which is that “nine out of 10 Filipino men polled said they liked to look good for themselves, not anyone else.

Narcissism is defined by the dictionary as “an excessive love or admiration of oneself. It is also defined as a psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem.”

We all possess varying degrees of inclination to narcissism. A healthy dose of love for or admiration of one’s self helps us function normally. It helps us appreciate our own look and more importantly, our achievements. In other words, when we have the right amount of narcissism, we become confident individuals. This assists us in getting ahead in school, in our careers and forming a healthy relationship with other people. And this means we can enjoy life more.

But an excessive dose of fondness for our own greatness could be bordering on insanity and delusion of grandeur. It can actually affect the way we deal with the people around us. Cases of narcissism have recently become unchecked and all of a sudden now acceptable thanks to people’s obsession with being famous like Hollywood celebrities. Likewise, the advent of social networking sites did not help people stay grounded in reality. In sites like Facebook for example, we see a lot of people exhibiting narcissistic behavior all the time.

It is easy to spot narcissists in social networking sites. They are the ones who cannot seem to get enough attention. They are the ones who post updates on the minutiae of what they are doing very frequently. They also change their profile photo everyday — as if the new one is perceivably better than the last one. You can even call what they are doing “spamming”. Narcissists fail to realize that posting updates and changing photos frequently could make them come across as unstable or “mental” to some.

In various forums online, narcissists participate in the discussion not to learn but to brag about what they know. They are easily offended and take things very personally. Unfortunately, on-line forums and social networking sites is where narcissists thrive.

An overdose of this personality trait called “narcissism” is associated with egotism, vanity, conceit and selfishness and is now considered a disorder.

A person suffering from narcissistic personality disorder has been described as someone with “an inflated sense of self-importance and an extreme preoccupation with themselves”. The cause of this disorder is said to be unknown but the disorder can be traced back to bad genes; abusive household or perhaps demonic possession…ok, that last one is a bit of a stretch. But you can just imagine the kind of environment that will breed or develop a personality disorder such as that.

One online source revealed that “a narcissist is someone who never grew out of being a selfish child. They find it hard to share and even harder to share the limelight, always wanting to be the focus of attention”. In short, a narcissist can also be described as simply immature.

PubMed Health described the symptoms of a person with narcissistic personality disorder below. Someone who may:

React to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation

Take advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals

Have excessive feelings of self-importance

Exaggerate achievements and talents

Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love

Have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment

Need constant attention and admiration

Disregard the feelings of others, and have little ability to feel empathy

Have obsessive self-interest

Pursue mainly selfish goals

In my role as a blogger, I have encountered quite a number of narcissists. They often force their views on other people by using written abuse, aggression and defensiveness. People like them do not acknowledge that other people are entitled to their own opinion. They quickly label people “idiot” or “stupid” but fail to see the flaw in their own thinking.

The behavior of narcissists on the Net mirrors what they are like in real life. In real life, they most likely also tend to use verbal abuse and force their way through even with their loved ones or those close to them. This is why you see a lot of Filipinas suffering in harmful relationships. It is a result of a combination of a society that suppresses women and a society that harbors machismo or excessive masculinity at the same time. It is quite destructive if you ask me.

Unfortunately, since narcissists use force to get their way, they also tend to be the ones who end up in power. Perhaps this is why a lot of the issues in the Philippines always end up reaching an impasse. Hardly anything gets resolved. This is because most politicians in power have excessive feelings of self-importance and are just preoccupied with “fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence” but they don’t really have a lot of substance. More importantly, most Filipino politicians pursue selfish goals regardless of how they affect other people.

Unless Filipino men who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder remain undiagnosed and untreated, they will continue to hold positions of power unrestrained, wreaking havoc on Philippine society.

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GabbyD
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” They quickly label people “idiot” or “stupid” but fail to see the flaw in their own thinking.”

so name calling is narcissistic behavior? i agree with that.

kizmet
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Name-calling shows your true character, me thinks.

It also shows a symptom of weakness and a surrender applying the logical reasons.

kizmet
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erratum:

It also shows a symptom of weakness and a surrender of the use of the logical reasons.

GabbyD
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“..is easy to spot narcissists in social networking sites. They are the ones who cannot seem to get enough attention. They are the ones who post updates on the minutiae of what they are doing very frequently. ”

would you argue that blogging is somewhat narcissistic as well? blogging was one of the first forms of online life; twitter is considered “micro-blogging”.

kizmet
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“I finally got confirmation that Filipino men are so into themselves”

Is that statement absolute Ilda? When I say absolute, I’d say, quoting someone as “not qualified or diminished in any way; total”?

Well, what I really meant to say is that, is this general or refer to “some” Filipinos, which would mean then, it is limited.

^_~

I like this

kizmet
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Erratum:

Well, what I really meant to say is that, is this general or it refers to “some” Filipinos, which would mean then, it is limited?

kizmet
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@GabbyD:

“would you argue that blogging is somewhat narcissistic as well?”

It depends, Gabby, in how you handle your ideas into the blog. If it shows narcissistic attitude, and if it shows narcissism in handling arguments.

kizmet
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@GabbyD:

“would you argue that blogging is somewhat narcissistic as well?”

It depends, Gabby, in how you handle your ideas into the blog. If it shows narcissistic attitude, and if it shows narcissism in handling arguments, then, then the blogger is narcissistic which is manifested in his/her blogging style.

kizmet
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“Narcissists fail to realize that posting updates and changing photos frequently could make them come across as unstable or “mental” to some.”

Ooops, really? I change profile photo of my facebook frequently.

But how frequent is frequent?

Ron
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Wait a minute, what about the women? How many women are narcissistic?

kizmet
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Let’s request for a separate blog on the narcissism in women, ^_~

Ron
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Yep. I agree! Kawawa naman kami.

Paolo
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How could most Filipino men be narcissistic, when your figure clearly says that it’s at 48%, i.e. not a majority? That’s like saying that a barkada of 10 is a fat group if 5 of them were overweight…

kizmet
Member

Most–> the keyword. Let’s suppose the most is represented by 50% of the total population. Of that 50%, can’t you conclude that 48% is not majority?

If not, please define majority.

Thanks.

anti
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Actually, narcissism only becomes a problem when it damages another person. It is not necessarily a bad trait. It is just a hint of optimism of a person for him/herself. Only a few Filipinos develop this trait wherein they believe in themselves. It is better for them to be narcissistic than to be pessimistic and become dependent in the end. Just my two cents.

P.S.

Except when you are in public service you cannot deny that narcissism distracts people more when they think of themselves more than the service they provide.

Ron
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Nice one. I agree. My brother is narcissistic but he never depends on anybody but himself. He does not hurt anyone though but it’s good because he’s independent. The bad side is when you want help, he won’t give a damn about you.

Hyden Toro
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In reading blogs…do not mind the Messenger…just understand his messages. If you are looking for Narcisists; just look at our Politicians and Leaders…some are given Honorary Doctorate Degrees, without even a good reason. Some use Public Relation people to magnify their: achievements; abilities and accomplishment. When they move; bodyguards are with them; with sirens blaring, that warns you; they are coming, so give way…Where the Leaders go…the People will surely follow…

anti
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do you mean, the idiots follow? In contrast to the blogger, most Filipinos are contented with mediocrity, a trait which develops in pessimistic people. They treat themselves as insignificant to the society wherein they tend to follow people whom they think is better than them in order to bask in their greatness. Everyone should have faith in themselves to pursue greatness in every little thing that they do. If they don’t, they should stay contented to where they are and wait for their insignificant death caused by the person they entrust themselves with.

Ron
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@Ilda

“Some people consider themselves excellent even when their accomplishment is only mediocre. That’s narcissism for you.”

I think that’s “pride” mixed with narcissism.

Edward
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You have got to be kidding me.

Anyway I believe that, being a guy I saw a lot that are boastful. I think it’s not only attractiveness only but also everything.

I admit I was once like that but times have changed when you get old. Attractiveness is now less a priority in me. I’m more on art now.

Simple dress and deodorant is okay to me. Hehehe…

kizmet
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Toro, I missed your comments in the GRPc.

Sandiya
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People who are narcissist: ” React to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation Take advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals Have excessive feelings of self-importance Exaggerate achievements and talents Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love Have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment Need constant attention and admiration Disregard the feelings of others, and have little ability to feel empathy Have obsessive self-interest Pursue mainly selfish goals. ” Must a narcissist in terms of disorder require all those features to be considered as a narcissist? If yes, then very small amount… Read more »
Joe America
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Sweet!

Baron Von Cruzer
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I live in California, I have had really horrible experiences dating, or should I say, attempting to date Filipinas. They have been narcissistic to a incredible degree. The problem is, I know they’re bad behaviors are reactions to bad behaviors of Filipino men. They’re not smart enough to realize that they should adjust their behavior towards me. They should not engage in such behaviors that are a reaction to behaviors I just don’t have. Okay, I need to clarify the “attempting to date” comment. These Filipinas all approached me first. Yeah! Yeah! I know that’s not typical behavior for a… Read more »
ChinoF
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This narcissism may come from the same likely root cause of “Pinoy Pride,” which is a feeling of inferiority influenced by images of masculinity in the mass media. Aside from the traditional machismo exhibited by Filipinos, narcissism exists because Filipino men actually fear being inferior – and yet they actually feel inferior. Mass media is also to blame for enforcing inaccurate stereotypes about the genders.

ChinoF
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Let me add, the inferiority also comes from the general state of poverty that influences the culture. Even our middle class and elite have been seeded with the mentality of people in poverty. Better views of masculinity can come from having a better economy.

ChinoF
Member

I think Filipino men need to be empowered too.

With more brains. haha

Edward
Guest

What? Brains?! Wait. Oh yeah you’re right.

ChinoF
Member

I think I’ll add one more thing to empower men with: heart. One wouldn’t so overly narcissistic if they had much heart (as in concern for others and all that). That’s how I see Pinoy masculine culture: quite heartless and brainless (as is all of Pinoy culture after all).

ChinoF
Member

You know, when Synovate said that 48% of Filipino men considered themselves attractive… did that study include “men” the likes of Vice Ganda? That might explain it. lol

BenK
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I love that Venn diagram. I’ve not seen that before.

Matthew Parkes
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I was thinking the same think, BenK. It’s the best part of the article! I mean no offence to you, Ilda. I enjoy your posts but this one is more of a discussion starter than analysis or observation but that was obviously your intention. Generally speaking, I do have a problem with Filipino male culture. I do not believe that any other men on earth are so collectively prepared to utterly depend on women – mothers, sisters, aunts, daughters – to bear so much responsibility for providing an income without any sense of shame or feeling of being challenged to… Read more »
balut
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feel sad for my people but it is true!

vandelmort
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yes, my confirmation is also correct. I have encountered of these kinds having these boastful, narcissistic, disorderly characteristics. Very small minds indeed!

smit
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Narcissistic, conceited, self-glorifying are only the few of the many bad traits of Filipinos.