Why I Don’t Get Pride Marches and Pride at All

Perhaps I’m weird to some, but I never got the logic of how pride marches lead to respect. To me, doing such marches is almost like being a siga (macho bully) in town, going around and demanding respect from others, and when someone does not give that respect, he beats them up. LGBTs don’t usually beat people up, the idea of demanding rather than earning respect is the similar thing between them and the siga. In the siga’s case, some people will be annoyed by his demands and will beat him up themselves. That’s what a pride projection does as I see it: draw fire to oneself.

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Courtesy of Wired

I believe humans have a natural aversion to others’ pride projection. When someone is arrogant, we find ourselves perturbed, right? I doubt that we should de-stigamatize this. This is a needed mechanism in our nature that helps identify and correct miscreants in society. Sometimes, these pride projectors cause trouble, such as the siga mentioned above, so we need to put them in their place. I also find it bad advice to just go along with one’s pride projection and lie (and flatter the person, saying they are beautiful, etc.) to avoid conflict, since that will encourage one’s egoism.

To me, the idea that someone will accept me if I were to project pride is the product of teen hormones and a poor understanding of human behavior. It’s the product of what guidance counselors call a defense mechanism, something we do because we feel we are attacked even if we are not. A lot of motivational advice has said, stop imagining that you are not accepted, and start thinking that you are already accepted. But this is difficult when your idea of acceptance is actually more of flattery than just acceptance.

That’s what I think is the goal of louder LGBTs, whether in or out of pride marches. They want to romp around fishing for praises, compliments and accolades for nothing, wanting people to tell them, “ang ganda niyo!” They do it for vanity. They want others to support their vanity with praises and adulations. They need to get the message that they’re not entitled to this.

This is why I am quite critical of Pinoy Pride. It’s similar. A projection of pride doesn’t cause you do deserve respect, and at times it may be an indication that you need less.

Remember when Filipinos in Singapore wanted to do a loud nationalistic celebration some years back? I compare it to LGBT marches because the Filipinos there wanted to be loud, or bongga as gay lingo calls it. But if they did that, they would be perceived as rebelling against Singaporean authority. It’s a good thing they backed down. Yet, I don’t get why people would want to loudly proclaim who they are, when people can already see it.

I believe LGBTs are mostly accepted. Of course, they had to go through a lot before reaching the point today. I do know about the chemical castration of Alan Turing and physical abuses to LGBTs before. But remember that these abuses are products of culture, and such abuse also happened to people with disabilities, migrants and people identified as nerds, among others. Even harmless religious groups and hobby groups receive raps. There are many reasons people can conjure up to reject and hate people, but it all boils down to getting rid of threats and useless people. As I said previously, you cannot completely remove discrimination unless you remove the culture of marking and removing undesirables. And this is something that exists in all cultures, not just ours.

I also think pride marches have outlived their relevance. They probably had their place in the sixties, when campaigning for rights had its major start and needed a boost to draw people. Today, they’re just commercialized parties, just like beauty pageants.

The association of LGBTs with pedophiles and sexual predators is still unfortunately there, mainly because the pioneer gay rights activists included pedophiles, such as Harry Hay. The LGBT movement will have to live with that, and also, be careful among their ranks, and the pedophiles might just be hiding and then will spring up when they have their chance.

I’ll repeat the saying “discretion is the better part of valor,” not to say the LGBTs should stay in the closet. Rather, it’s better to not be noisy and obnoxious, and take the sober and rational way to do it. I believe the quiet behind-the-scenes action, such as directly meeting with policy makers, gets more results than the noisy actions (such as protests). Gretchen (Greg) Diez though made noise not for freedom’s or human rights’ sake, but for vanity’s sake, and got exploited to support a controversial bill. I do not support the SOGIE bill, but in case it passes, let’s see what happens then. I expect some using it to interpret refusal of one’s “love” as discrimination or to say refusal to agree with one’s self-claimed “beauty” is bullying (remembering the siga earlier, that’s how some LGBTs or vain people may “beat up” others).

Perhaps I’ll call something a spade now: if someone is a man, and he claims to be a woman, he lies. If they want to believe to themselves that they’re the other sex, fine then. They should just not expect other people to play along with their lie. They could have their own world, but they shouldn’t drag other people into it. Fellow blogger Gogs’ recent piece about Gilas’ losses can connect to this. Some Gilas fans seem to be in their own world, and get mad when others don’t share their mindset. And that’s one reason why the Philippines is a dump. We have to leave our own world at times, and put our egos six hundred feet under, since egos don’t help but bog us down.

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About ChinoF

I stick with this blog because I believe, as my cohorts here do, that many things Filipinos embrace as part of their culture, the "Filipino Way," are pulling them down. And I blog freely to show that in a truly decent society, with true freedom of speech, even nobodies have a voice.

11 Comments on “Why I Don’t Get Pride Marches and Pride at All”

  1. No matter what we do, Filipinos will never get respect in the world. It is because, most of us, living abroad are OFW servants/slaves.

    It is the same thing as any LBTQ* people. They March to demand respect, and force others to believe what they think they are; which they can never be…

    If you were born a male…you remain a male, until your death….no matter what you do, you can never be a female…and vice versa.

    And , if you are born a “Queer”…and you force others to believe , you are not a “Queer”…then, that is where the trouble begin…

    Let us accept what creation has made us; and not tinker with “mother nature”, and force others that , we have “outdone” the creative gift of mother nature…

    We must have Peace, no matter who we are…or who we think we are !

  2. How do you fully respect people who hide their real looks? let me ask this question also: when members of the LGBTQ+^n… apply for a, say passport, are they allowed to fake their images? I wonder how Gregorio Diez looks like in his passport. And if I happen to be working in the immigration department, I won’t let him pass through the security gates unless he matches the photograph in the passport!

    1. #BadWillJam,
      in my country, there is – now – at least 1/one person who has an X in its passport (behind the word: gender). So, not an F (female) and not an M (male) but an X. And oh, I am NOT kidding here.

        1. I am not sure (I am sure you can Google this particular Dutch situation) but I think the person was born a man, changed his body (genitals and other physical appearances) to female AND changed its gender/sex sign in his/her passport.

        2. I am not sure (I am sure you can Google this particular Dutch situation) but I think the person was born a man, changed his body (genitals and other physical appearances) to female AND changed its gender/sex sign in his/her passport with an X.

  3. It is this gap between the human level and up to the God level that people gets all mixed up, it is the gap where reality and fantasy exist in the same realm, where a man can see himself as a woman and a woman a man, no one can reach the God level, they get crazy first. We must go back to the real world and transform ourselves back into human just like that guy did about more than 2000 years ago and we can all live as a normal being.

  4. BTW, why need ‘emergency power’ the land is owned by the republic that’s why we pay property taxes.
    Just apply ‘the right of way’ to solve the problem.

  5. It’s “Exhibitionism” for all to see you as a special along with the acknowledgement of others of your status, these “Pride Parades” have been always Socio-Political tool. And recently the Alphabet League are angry at “Straight Pride Parades”.

  6. I would like to share these two videos to all of you which is created by a Youtube vlogger by the name of Mr. Riyoh & he have real proof & information on why we DON’T NEED this SOGIE Bill in the first place. But his 2 videos are in Tagalog language, so if anyone who wants to have an English translation on his 2 videos, then maybe I should try to translate it but it takes some time to do it. So without further ado here are the Youtube links:

    Part 1: https://youtu.be/l5H542mYdKs

    Part 2: https://youtu.be/USdRIc4esv0

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