Reigning Miss Universe Pia Wurtzbach expressed her dismay at being loveless at the moment. When asked the question, “If there is one thing she could change in this world, what would it be?” her response was not the standard “To bring world peace” but it was rather, more personal. In her own words, she said “Na sana hindi na ako #TeamSawi”. Sawi means unfortunate or miserable in English. Of course she was referring to her love life. Her wish was for herself, to be out of the lonely-hearts club. She doesn’t have a boyfriend at the moment and she wants to change that.A lot of people find it hard to believe that a beautiful woman like Miss Wurtzbach doesn’t have a boyfriend but, ironically, that could be part of the reason why she is still unattached to someone. Sometimes men assume that a beautiful woman is already taken or is out of their league, which is why they don’t even think of approaching her. A woman who looks perfect can make some men feel insecure.
To the average man, a beautiful woman can be intimidating or could mean hard work. It could be because men tend to make a lot of assumptions about beautiful women like perhaps she could be a diva or high-maintenance particularly if the woman has been crowned the most beautiful woman in the universe.
Only men who are bold and brave enough to take risks or aren’t afraid of rejection try to make the moves on beautiful women. As a wise man once said, you will never get to dance with a beautiful woman unless you ask her. Just like with most things in life, when it comes to courtship, it is a gamble – sometimes a man will win, sometimes he will lose. It all depends on how he plays his cards. A man might get a woman’s attention through his looks or money but the only way he can keep her is if he has an easy-going and amiable personality. A man who is too stuck-up will send the right woman scurrying off.
Having the right amount of sex appeal is also important. A woman might have a pretty face and nice body but if her personality is as flat as a board, she won’t be appealing. Conversations with such a woman would be full of uncomfortable silences. Men would simply see her as something as useful as a trophy on a mantelpiece. This theory is also applicable to men. That’s why they say looks aren’t everything. An average looking person oozing with sex appeal would be luckier in love than someone who is physically attractive but boring.
The truth is, compared to average looking people; it can be tougher for people blessed by genetics with good looks to find someone who can see beyond their appearance – someone who will love them not just for their looks but also for their personality.
Miss Wurtzbach comes across as someone who is smarter and more articulate than the average beauty pageant contestant but that could be part of the problem as well. Some men prefer that women be seen, not heard. Only real men can handle strong women but, nowadays, there aren’t a lot of real men available for such women. There seems to be an abundance of men who are too weak and sensitive to a woman with an opinion.
Miss Wurtzbach should play her cards right. She should be careful not to sound too desperate for a boyfriend. She might attract the wrong suitors. In the same interview, she also made it known that she has a crush on a particular man – a journalist named Atom Araullo. I don’t think it was a good idea for her to let the whole world know she has a crush on Araullo. Some people might think she is too shallow. Courtship is a tricky business. Honesty is nice but some information can make the object of her affection feel uncomfortable. It all depends on how he feels about her.
It’s been said that men in general prefer to be challenged. They like the thrill of the chase. A man who knows that a woman has a crush on him might find the whole situation too easy if not a complete turn off. Let’s just hope that this Araullo guy would not think it’s a bit creepy that Miss Universe has a crush on him. He looks like a gentleman who wouldn’t say anything rude about her or her revelation anyway. As a general rule, women should avoid letting it be known that she has a crush on a man just in case he turns out to be an asshole.
Most people including confidently beautiful women love receiving compliments. Compliments whether directed at our appearance or our work is a form of validation of our very existence. Anybody can give you a compliment but a compliment coming from someone you have a crush on is like a drug that can put you in a state of euphoria. It can be addictive. The constant reinforcement of our own ego feels good.
However, the minute you stop getting compliments from that person, it can send you crashing down. It can make you behave in an irrational manner. Feelings of jealousy, inadequacy and mistrust can creep in. This doesn’t just happen to women exclusively. It can happen to men as well. When you hear about someone behaving like a lunatic, it could be because of a broken heart. It is not a good situation to be in. We should all avoid being in that situation at all cost. Sometimes what we think is a broken heart could be just our bruised ego.
Miss Wurtzbach should be careful what she wishes for. She is on top of the world right now and should enjoy being unattached. Her reign as Miss Universe will not last forever and being with the wrong man can be a showstopper. Sometimes being alone can be better than being with a douchebag. God forbid she meets someone who will try to change and control her. Some men mask their own insecurity by putting their loved ones down, being cruel by making the woman feel small. A man’s hurtful words and put downs work like a chisel; it chips away a woman’s confidence until it is gone. Once a woman’s confidence is gone, she will lose her independence and could end up clinging to the relationship even when the man is abusive. It’s a recipe for disaster.
Miss Wurtzbach could be forgiven for thinking that a boyfriend could help her fill a void in her life and make her feel less sawi or miserable about her love life. After all, it would be nice if she had someone else to share all the wonderful experiences she is having right now. But the truth is, being comfortable on our own is good too. The best time to be in a relationship is when we reach a state where we are confident about ourselves to the point that whatever criticism we receive from anyone will not affect us negatively. That’s when our genuine self-confidence and self-awareness will radiate from inside us and attract the right person.
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