A lesson for Ica Policarpio’s family: When you appeal to the public for help, you owe them closure

A lot of people are annoyed. A social media storm was successfully raised after 17 year old Ica Policarpio “went missing” which kicked off a series of events — and the heavens being “stormed with prayers” — that led to her being “found” alive and unharmed today. It started with an appeal for help posted on Facebook by her sister Bea Policarpio soon went and, soon after, over Twitter.

The social media campaign was so successful that even celebrities were tweeting and retweeting appeals for assistance and prayers with no less than Kris Aquino, Pops Fernandez, Anthony Pangilinan, Gary Valenciano, Anne Curtis-Smith and Sharon Cuneta contributing their star power to the cause.

Now that Policarpio had been “found” the question Netizens are asking is a natural one: What really happened to Ica Policarpio?

According to National Capital Region Police Office (NCRPO) chief Director Oscar Albayalde, there was no indication Policarpio was kidnapped. Instead, “police are looking into the possibility that someone influenced Ica to run away from home given that she was a minor.”

Many Netizens, it seems, find the experience of being sucked into an emotional rollercoaster then left scratching their heads after the happy — but secret — ending akin to a love affair that ended without proper closure. Indeed, it raises the issue of future social media appeals no longer being taken seriously following what many are starting to describe as a boy-who-cried-wolf spectacle.

For that matter, an even more confronting question is now floating around: Why do certain individuals warrant this sort of massive attention and support while thousands of other similar cases languish in obscurity? In short, the question is: What is so special about Ica Policarpio?

It is interesting to note that “social news site” Rappler ran the story within a day of the first Facebook post fielded by sister Bea on the 21st of December. The speed with which the story was picked up by a certain clique of Netizens and by the social news site known for certain affiliations has raised eyebrows. This is in considering that Policarpio is a niece of Jose Jaime Policarpio Jr., who served as Presidential Legislative Liaison Office chief of former President Joseph Estrada. It needs no mention too that Ica Policarpio is a student at an exclusive school.

The Policarpios are, of course, entitled to their privacy. But the public who were brought into this gigantic emotional loop are also entitled to their curiosity. Turning to social media for “help” is like signing a deal with the devil. You get what you think is a free ride until it is time to get off at your destination. Then you get the bill.

[Also this: Why the family of Ica Policarpio is not entitled to their privacy — according to the rules of social media]

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Jacques Phillip
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Her sister Bea is (or was) an intern for Rappler. Which adds another fly in this already thickening ointment.

Anj
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How??

Pampam ka
Guest

So what?! Mga chismosa

Robert Haighton
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In my neck of the woods we do this differently using an entire different system.
When a child is gone missing, we use the AMBER Alert system. For more info regarding this system, pls read the wiki (only available in Dutch) and the official Amber website. There is also an Amber Alert Europe.

Do I personally care NOT getting (dis)closure about the found missing person? No, not at all.

https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/AMBER_Alert_Nederland
https://www.amberalert.nl/

Dave
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Probably because you don’t treat real life as a telenovela that needs conventional heroes, villains and endings to make sense.

Vader
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Telenovelas are best left in tv shows. They’re plain fiction, not real life.

robert yap
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you watch too many telenovs… it affects you.

Mai
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Non sense. They owe us nothing. They asked for help. If you wamt to truly help, you do that without asking or needing anything in return. Not with an expectation.
Someone went missing. Now she is found. That is good enough.

-The end-

Esther
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And yet, this is just your opinion. Thousands others who were sucked into this melodrama may not feel the same way. Don’t be too dismissive of other people’s feelings.

robertja
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Those thousands of others chose to be sucked into A MELODRAMA that they created on their own. These people have an absurd sense of entitlement and are chismosos/chismosas who didn’t even try to help and just wanted to follow the drama. Now that the situation has been resolved, they feel that they need answers? Just goes to show the hypocrisy and insincerity commenting words of support just to make them feel good about themselves. The family don’t owe any of us any explanation. There is an investigation going on, if the family or the police decide to reveal the results… Read more »
SHIPPING SHTARBUCKSH FRAPPE AT SM CITY SHAN PABLEW
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Yeah, anybody would use social media. Thing is she IS SPECIAL. So many people have appealed online with the same problem. Sa espasyo ng Facebook hindi na bago yung ganito. Pero pinublish ba ng Rappler, ABSCBN, celebrities? Ica Policarpio grants herself a unique slot sa mga ganitong konteksto kasi hindi naman lahat nabibigyan ng ganitong pribilehiyo na mapagtuunan ng pansin at atensyon. Lucky for her, the girls who found her at a San Pablo Starbucks were aware of her appearance. Thanks, of course, to the power and privilege of Policarpio family. Yay.

Nad
Guest

Red herring. That’s besides the argument in the article. The family doesn’t owe the public any disclosure.

robertja
Guest

So what if it was published by rappler,apscbn, celebrities? Maybe they knew someone from rappler, abscbn or the showbiz industry. How does that entitle those who followed/shared, to be given an explanation/closure as to what really happened? Are you not content with the thanks and gratitude that the Policarpio family shared to all those who REALLY cared and DID something? You just clicked the share button and followed the “melodrama” and suddenly you think you deserve and explanation? That’s some effed up logic right there.

111
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But won’t probably get the same primetime media coverage and attention.

johncg
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I totally agree. Someone needed help. I shared, as that’s the only way I knew I could help out. I know exactly how it feels to have someone go missing. “Closure”-ina nyo! Are you saying because you shared a post you are now entitled to pry into their lives? That kind of entitlement should immediately be dismissed. Some people live miserable lives and one of the ways for them to feel a little bit better about themselves is to find drama in someone else’s life. Matuto kayong maging masaya sa mga buhay nyo, para hindi kayo naghahanap ng pagkagaan ng… Read more »
GAP
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I totally agree with you. Finding the girl IS the CLOSURE. Bless the hearts of everyone who helped without question and are respecting the family’s request for privacy. THAT is what you call genuine concern.

Gdragon
Guest
Are you kidding me??? I believe hindi para makichismis ang intensyon ng mga taong gustong malaman kung anong totoong nangyare sa kanya. Bea dragged the public to a thought that something life-threatening happened to Ica. Tinulungan sya ng publiko. Baka naman gusto nyang tumanaw ng utang na loob by sharing kung ano talaga ang nangyare kasi kung anong nangyare sa kapatid nya, pwede ding mangyari samin, or sa mga kamag anak namin. They owe the public a warning that certain “dangers” happen in real life. Para naman makapag ingat din kami diba. Ang babaw ng nakikichismis. Ano to, sila lang… Read more »
robertja
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Gdragon: Bea didn’t drag the public to anything. YOU and those who followed this CHOSE to be dragged into it. You could have scrolled past. Clicking the share button and following what happened does not entitle you to anything. Pwede naman talaga mangyari kahit kanino yan. Ang tanong, how does that affect you? How will it help you kung nalaman mo na naglayas lang pala kasi nakipagaway sa bf, or pinagalitan ng tatay? Baka lalo ka pa magalit sa nalaman mo (na di mo naman talaga concern na, really) Ginagamit mo lang yun dahilan kasi nga feeling mo enitled ka… Read more »
JOEVEL
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AGREE ROBERTJA,,,,SPOT ON,,,,,THIS DIMWITS,,TYPIFIES PILIPINO MENTALITY,,,,MGA CHISMOSO AT CHISMOSA, PAKIALAMERO AT PAKIALAMERA, NAGVOLUNTARY SHARE LANG GUSTO NG MALAMAN KUNG ANO ANG BOONG STORYA,,,,,,HILLBILLY IN THE CITY!

Killer
Guest

Bobo k pla eh. Ang tulong meaning taos puso mong ibbgay ang mggwa mo ng wlang kapalit o kabayaran. Hnd ito pera n dapat pgbayaran mo. Pero hnd kita masisi dahil mahilig k sa mga tsismisan at muka naman wlang kang buhay kundi fb. Pucha sana ikaw nlng makidnap. Sana hnd k nrn makabalik. Maganda gandang storya yan.

Ronnie
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Medjo tanga ka humiling. Hinay hinay ka baka karmahin ka sa pananalita mo. Hahaha.

Sandy
Guest

Same thoughts here.

kath
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I’ll be sharing this comment. thanks ❤️

robert yap
Guest

we need to know. for the general public. becuase this could happen again. especially if the one missing is a special child.

Mai
Guest

And that is what keeps people wallowing in their own misery. It is none of your business. But even that is up to you. Merry xmas.

Leen
Guest

Haven’t heard of the boy who cried wolf?.. if people keep doing this.. then there will be less people to help ’em out..

응맞아
Guest

it can’t be good enough if she really joined the 48 hour challenge. She was reading a book at a cafe when everyone was looking for her. How can she not know that she’s missing or lost?

robert yap
Guest

you’re sour-grapping. you wanna know naman talaga deep inside you. trust me. you’re not 100% over this.

Raul Tolentino
Guest

Yes, the family owes the state an explanation.

Statistics on runaways tell us that a DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY ENVIRONMENT INCLUDING SEXUAL / PHYSICAL ABUSE constitute a big percentage of why adolescents run away.

The state should, at least, investigate the reason why she ran away.

robertja
Guest

If you have been following the news, the police are investigating. The family and police said they would reveal the results of the investigation.

Statistics? What is your source? What does it even have to do with this? Do you have any insight on what actually happened?

Mai
Guest

Wow! That is insanely presumptuous. There is zero explanation revealed and you throw out sexual/physical abuse like you’re a kid in a candy store. THIS is how chismis is created and results in defamation. Be careful when you choose to throw your assumptions around based on absolutley nothing.

They owe the public nothing. Zero. Zilch.

Juan
Guest

I agree Mai. Well said!

Soleil
Guest

True..”we” all wanted this ‘saga’ to end in a positive note. Whatever the reason it is true..the family has the right to their privacy. Like the artistas who shared their concerns of the situation. Am sure they know the meaning of.privacy. however, i hav no comment abt big sisBea being in rappler..she is just a concerned big siater… We all know wat rappler is.

robertja
Guest
LOL! This author is just another chismoso who has a sense of entitlement. They don’t owe you anything. The moment you felt that you are entitled to answers, made you and the others like you a bunch of fake, insincere and hypocrites. You made it about you, instead of about the family reunited. The family don’t owe any of us any explanations. There is an investigation going on, if the family or the police decide to reveal the results or what really happened, then good. If not, let them be. Just be glad that she is fine. Move on with… Read more »
SHIPPING SHTARBUCKSH FRAPPE AT SM CITY SHAN PABLEW
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For me, hindi chismoso yung author. Pinublicize nila ito, what do you expect? The public is concerned, curious. You cannot feed them with “respect privacy” arguments. Besides, if I should follow your line of thought, for the sake of discourse, the public is worthy of praise dahil they are critical of the flow of events. Stop reducing what happened to what happened. Privacy? Chismosa? The published articles could be lying. Psychological condition daw? Investigation? There’s a lot more to tell from broadsheets, from the manipulation of the media. I want to finish what I have to say by saying how… Read more »
Quincy Gonzales
Guest
If GRR Martin or HBO decides to cancel the book or the show Game of Thrones, then we as the public will want to have “closure.” And though all our fanboying will “storm the heavens” and social media pleading to give us an explanation as to why said show got cancelled, more often than not, they don’t— not to our satisfaction at least. Maybe it was the ratings. Maybe. We feel that they “owe” us because we, the people, are an audience that they need to please. The policarpio family, IS NOT a show. Ica’s disappearance, no matter how “melodramatic”… Read more »
ChinoF
Member

Another KSP thing by some attention-hungry people, aye? Not to mention the timing with this news of a 48-hour “disappearance” game on Facebook. It would certainly be better if the family could confirm if Ica was fooled into following that. Also, Rappler should be attacking that game, if they’re so angry at social media as they are now.

Armored Bear
Guest

Well then, what’s you’re evidence to make that claim, sir? Mere assumption?

ChinoF
Member

Assumption for now, but there’s the context of the reported challenge to support my assumption.

Jim
Guest

Get a life man!

Lorenz
Guest

She is entitled to her privacy! Thr devil always wants a pay back, the glory, but the bible says when you help do not expect anything in return. Why can’t we think that way and be happy for the family that we were all able to help! And that the family has her back for Christmas!

Anne Joler
Guest
I agree the family does not owe the public an explanation. It’s privacy. The thing is, ginusto nila ipublicize itong #FindIca tragedy. The public will follow the story, whether you like it or not. But get this. The issue here is not a matter of privacy. In actuality, it’s a web of problems. Una, there are two endings presented by the media: the (1) ABS-CBN version, and the (2) Rappler version. Sa article ng ABS-CBN, it states Ica was found weeping in a carinderia somewhere in the city of San Pablo, thanks to a woman from a barangay council who… Read more »
Sean
Guest

Reading comprehension po. December 23 yung tweet ng mga babae na nakita nila si Ica sa Starbucks, nagbabasa. This helped police find her the next day, crying sa isang carinderia. There’s no two sides of the story.

CRAB
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“I say revise this article; don’t fish for closure. Rather, explore how the Policarpio family displayed power and privilege.” But how? Should we consider asking for help in social media by the Policarpio family for a missing dear daughter Ica an exclusive display of power and privilege… when it’s clearly an open available option to everyone else? Is there anyone in the public, that anyone knows here, that manifested that they acted to extend a help against their will? It seems jealousy, sometimes, leads one to a sort of an entitlement! “I mean, to put it way better: SHE WAS… Read more »
SHIPPING SHTARBUCKSH FRAPPE AT SM CITY SHAN PABLEW
Guest

I agree with Anne Joler. Hindi closure yung dapat problemahin dito e. It’s how much power and privilege have led to the finding of Ica. Bakit yung mga nawawalang mga lolo at lola na may Alzeihmers hindi naman nabibigyan ng pansin? May nagviral nga na nanay, nag post siya. Yung anak niyang PWD, hindi pa rin niya nahahanap. E kasi dahil may pera naman tong pamilya Policarpio, nagawang umapila sa media. Yung aso namin nung bato ako nawala, hanggang ngayon hindi bumabalik. Kung may pera pamilya ko edi sinabihan na namin yung media para mahanap din naman pala agad.

Armored Bear
Guest

“Yung mga nawawalang mga lolo at lola na may Alzheimers…”

Look up “Lola Aurelia” and “Lolo Luis”.

Jim
Guest

Which whiny planet did you come from?

Hyden007Toro999.99
Guest

It is just a case of Fake News. Rappler and other YellowTard Media, that wanted your attention. It is one way of hoodwinking the public.

Who is this Policarpio girl anyway ? Many other Filipinos are missing. Yet, they don’t warrant attention. Some were massacred during the Aquino Cojuangco reign. Nobody raise any alarm for them !

Ronnie
Guest

I’m surprised how much attention this missing case attracted, considering that there are a lot of other missing cases that need help given that the missing persons are not of sound mental state or the missing persons are too young to find their way back home.

KSP
Guest
I guess it has something to do with what they call ‘self-identification’, as in the study of Sociology. Most probably self-identify with someone who is viewed as a damsel in distress and perhaps there’s an ’emotional attraction’ to what appears to be a very cute, young Ica with a nice sweet smile. Somewhat similar is what happened to a UST student hazing-victim Atio. Many privileged and powerful people, both in private and in the government, some even associated with Atio’s family, identify themselves with the case. But unfortunately, NOT with someone like Kian, a 17 year old murdered by police… Read more »
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Ani Torres
Guest

Next time the public will know better. Thanks to this… Whatever you may call it. People do learn fast. Social media might just wear out for the real and more serious cases. People just might not believe anymore. God will deal with those who lie anyway. So if some think that those who need closure are simply chismoso, remember, these are the people who rallied to help but now are labeled. Woe to the next child who might really be victimized. People will learn to stiffen their necks.

amaretto
Guest

geez, all you did was what? and all of a sudden you feel you are owed an explanation? get a life, no one owes anyone anything!

Icarus
Guest

@benignO,

You agree that, “The Policarpios are…entitled to their privacy” but then you believe that “the public who were brought into this gigantic emotional loop are also entitled to their curiosity”.

Entitled to what exactly?! The public’s curiosity?! I beg to differ! I smell entitlement!

Catallena
Guest

I have read this article about a challenge wherein kids would runaway for 48 hours. I can’t help but think that it is the reason for this girl’s disappearance

MARC
Guest

They owe nothing. Dafuq? Tutulong nalang kelangan may halong chika dapat? And sa mga sinayang DAW ang oras nila… ORAS FOR WHAT? 😂😂😂

Jam
Guest

1. The Policarpio Family did promise the public an explanation, BUT IN DUE TIME.

2. How dare you say that “the public who were brought into this gigantic emotional loop are also entitled to their curiosity”. The public is owed NOTHING.

3. This “curiosity” is your fancy way of saying “chismis”. Your article is just going to add fuel to a fire that’s already burnt out.

Ica went missing, the family appealed for help, social media delivered, and she was found safe and sound. End of story.

Tim Decano
Guest
What an ass. If you helped in any way and she was found, and the family chooses to close it the way they want to, then leave it be. No social contract was established that if you share and help, you’d get an explanation as to how it ends. If we will follow that line of logic – if you can call it that – then we must also demand every couple who posted hundreds of their #couplegoals photos in social media and suddenly ended their relationship to explain in full detail what happened to the once happy relationship. Get… Read more »