I Agree With Same-Sex Marriage But…

“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means to you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”

~Adam Cappa

I am one of those who are certainly happy with the approval of same-sex marriage in the United States. It’s very heartwarming to see that some people don’t need to be lonely anymore and can spend their lives with the people they love. It’s nice to see that two of my good friends can finally live happily under one roof and have their relationship legitimized.

However, what I can not and will not accept from LGBT people in the United States, the Philippines or anywhere else in the world is the “like me or else” attitude. While I certainly champion both tolerance and acceptance of others, let it be known that I do not approve of people forcing themselves on others.

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To give you better context that I have been a bachelor for much of my life. I don’t know, I guess I really am that creepy. Anyway, there’s this girl I want to impress. I know that the idea of her loving me is very unlikely so I was hoping that she could at least like me. Unfortunately, that probably won’t happen either because I’m just a little too creepy to be likable. But then, you can probably agree that she has every right not to like me after all. Everyone has a right to their own opinion and their own preferences as it should be. Remember that you can never force someone to love or like you no matter how much you love or like them.

There will be people in your life who will probably never agree with or even understand you and that is a reality that we all need to learn to live with regardless of ethnic identity, sexual orientation, religious beliefs or lack thereof. That’s simply the way things are in this world and no amount of whining or violence can change that. To all LGBT members out there who are mad at religious leaders who refuse to wed you, businesses who won’t cater to you or people who can’t return your love for them, please learn to respect others as well. If they don’t like or accept you then the best thing to do is to simply shrug your shoulders and move on in hopes of finding better opportunities elsewhere.

Remember also that rape is also called “forcing yourself on someone” because, by raping another person, you’re making them have sex with you by force. While I am not accusing of LGBT people of rape, by forcing your will upon others, you are no different from the people who have been oppressing you all those years ago. By making unwilling people conform to your desires, you are essentially forcing yourself on them, albeit in a metaphoric fashion.

So please, people of the LGBT community, if you want people to accept you then you have to learn to accept others as well. When you meet people who don’t accept or agree with you, just walk away and find another way. Is that so hard to understand or do?

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Kevin
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That is one of the big problems with the approval of same-sex “marriage” here in the USA. Gay activists are bullying those who do not wish to participate in their lifestyle through lawsuits. So much for tolerance . . . sigh.

not sure
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This pushing for marriage licence is actually amusing me. If a person truly love someone then why do they need the state to validate their “love”? Its actually easier to live together without the government getting involved with more aspects of your life. It’s also easier to get divorced and not get hell of legal procedures. Just break up and move on.

CCC
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It is for conjugal properties I guess, benefits same as heterosexual couples.

ice cube
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the problem with the US is that it is an I win – you lose society. never any gracious losers or gracious winners. play nice and we will all be okay.

why is it that we are so US-centric? Canada had gay marriage in 2005 and no one gave an s—.

Pepe Rep
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Hi ice cube, I don’t agree that the US is an “I win – you lose soceity”, though certainly the recent SCOTUS ruling made it to be so. Original intent is for domestic issues such as marriage are decided at state level, that was affirmed in the Windsor decision by the same author, Justice Kennedy, who disaffirmed that with Obergefell a week ago. Ideally, the federal setup makes sure everyone gets to live and let live; people have differing values after all, and federalism accommodates just that. Remember, this is a 5-4 majority and until the districts and appeals courts… Read more »
ice cube
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it is an i win you lose society. too much red v. blue. i can see your states rights argument here (however, there were 36 states that allowed gay marriage before the decision) and if i were to dissent i would go with that. it really should be up to the states to decide or to take it to a more extreme the state should have zero to do of what you do in your bed or how to raise a family. it’s simply none of their business. it is however too late for that as many of the benefits… Read more »
Pepe Rep
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Of the 37 (not just 36) “states that allowed gay marriage before the decision”, 26 we’re by court decision, that’s hardly democratic, it seems there were only 8 states that approved it by legislature and 3 by popular vote. Note also that Justice Kennedy, an Angelino, dissented (joined by Justice Sotomayor, interestingly) on Hollingsworth v. Perry strinking down California Proposition 8. I would agree with you that “it really should be up to the states to decide or to take it to a more extreme the state should have zero to do of what you do in your bed or… Read more »
ice cube
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the philippines is a different story for the sake of population control (a legitimate government interest) i would allow gay marriage and go a step further and have government funded forced vasectomies and ligations….come on not even the size of california and with 100 million people.

008Hayden007777Toro
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Thaddeus, if there is no “Chemistry” (meeting of the minds), between you and the girl, you are courting; you are just losing your time. She will never love/want you…

I am a little bit “conservative”. So, I don’t agree, on marriage, between homosexuals. I believe in marriage between, a man and a woman. And, no one can take that belief from me.

However, since I cannot understand Homosexuality. If two people of the same sex, want to live together , as couple. Then, let them do it…it will help in the population control of our country.

nanie cadsky
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i don’t agree with same-sex marriage because it does not benefit society. Their behavior is also not in conformity with morality. They argue that gender is not determined by one’s genitals and that gender is what you think you are, well then if i am a male elephant then is that my gender? if we adopt homosexuals’ mentality, then this will be beginning of human society.

Lawrence
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Elephant is a species, not a gender. Are you a cis-male, or a trans-male? Are you sexually attracted to the same gender, the opposite gender, or sometimes-same-sometimes-different? It’s not that difficult, really. If you ask me, same sex marriage has the exact same benefits as any other marriage that does not fit the norm, regardless if it’s marriage despite the inability to procreate, or marriage despite one or both participants are already retired. Just because you’re not forced to marry your rapist anymore (as per Bible), doesn’t mean changing the definition of marriage is bad. In fact, those behaviors you’re… Read more »
T
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it’s all in the packaging. flamboyant baklas and their fafas i have a problem with, i’ll admit that. but couples that look like nph and david burtka, they’re cool in my book. this reminds me of the time i watched gravitation (a lifetime ago), wherein i was reluctant because of the yaoi theme. In the end, it made me forget that the story was about two dudes in love… instead remember it simply was a love story between two people.

TOgirl
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Oh you poor, untravelled, one-dimensional soul.

KratosGodofPeace
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Grimwald, that quote from Adam Cappa though not only applies to the legalization of same-sex marriage but also applies to parenting and friendship. Some parents would not mind teaching their kids these lies through their orders (mga utos) because that is what “they think was right” and will not falter to implement such things. 🙁
I hope some parents who are reading this article will be alarmed by such big lies. 🙂

Nice quote pick there. 🙂

staser
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Here is the US it’s getting out of control. Organizations like the American Federation of Teachers are pushing to have homosexuality and gay propaganda be exposed to children ages 6 to 12 in order for them to view gay and transgender culture as things that are normal and acceptable. This can be dangerous since kids at those ages are not sexually mature enough to handle such content. Worst of all, more schools are doing this without informing parents because it is their “civic duty” to do so. Gay advocacy groups have launched all sorts of anti-hate campaigns against churches, schools,… Read more »
ice cube
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too much fox news is not good for you…please tell me you are white…

staser
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That’s all you have to say to me? I’m a Filipino studying and working here in the US. What does ‘being white’ have to do with this? I don’t even watch Fox News and everything I’ve said is unbiased fact. The fact that you failed to reply with any adequate argument and resort to baseless accusations proves to me you are either an ignoramus, a typical simpleminded Filipino, or both.

ice cube
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so because the gays have ruined america…are you leaving?

ice cube
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teacher (raises hand) i want to take a stab at making a good argument. so as i understand the equal protection clause in the fourteenth amendment makes it illegal to deny people of equal protection under the law. equal protection guarantees that when the government discriminates against a certain group by denying them a certain benefit, like getting married, that it should not be arbitrary. what rational and non-arbitrary reason is there for the government to deny gay people the right to marry? and no you can’t use religious reasons because that would be against the establishment clause of the… Read more »
Pepe Rep
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Hi ice cube, using the equal protection and substantive due process clauses in the fourteenth amendment was the terrible gin and tonic trick by Justice Kennedy. Justice Roberts stated “the privacy cases provide no support for the majority’s position, because petitioners do not seek privacy. Quite the opposite, they seek public recognition of their relationships, along with corresponding government benefits. Our cases have consistently refused to allow litigants to convert the shield provided by constitutional liberties into a sword to demand positive entitlements from the State.” Also Justice Thomas: “In the American legal tradition, liberty has long been understood as… Read more »
Lawrence Augustine R. Mingoa
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Lawrence Augustine R. Mingoa
Regarding the “concerns” stated in this: 1. Actually, children begin to become aware of gender as early as two years old, so teaching them about the LGBT community and encouraging children to look beyond gender is perfectly acceptable by ages 6-12. https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/gradeschool/Pages/Gender-Identity-and-Gender-Confusion-In-Children.aspx 2. Considering how religious people and businesses have been discriminating since time in memorial, I’m not surprised that their “religious freedom” and “freedom of speech” are being curtailed. The right to free speech does not give you immunity to its repercussions nor its responsibilities. 3. Look up Yick Wo v. Hopkins (1886): “These provisions are universal in their… Read more »
staser
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1. This is not about learning of one’s gender, it’s about promoting all forms of sexual identities and lifestyles. Schools are doing this without parental consent. Does it not matter what parents and guardians think anymore? Schools don’t even expose kids to graphic images of heterosexual culture without informing parents, why should other sexual categories be exempt? 2. Learning tolerance and respect for others is one thing. But to the point that people lose their jobs or get fined thousands of dollars because they disagree with the politically correct agenda? This isn’t about promoting gradual tolerance anymore, it’s just radical… Read more »
Mel
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Give me a break staser, trying to sounds so brilliant and question the Supreme court of the USA, your host country that gives you an opportunity to be considered human being? TYpical pignoy.

Lawrence Augustine R. Mingoa
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Lawrence Augustine R. Mingoa
1. Do you need parental consent when schools teach who Allah is? Who Jesus Christ is? Who Buddha is? What the differences between girls and boys are? I can understand that there is more to discuss before we can actually have a proper curriculum that correctly discusses gender, but the fact is that if you are going to properly discuss with children what makes a girl a girl and a boy a boy, you will need to explain to them that there is more to genders than biology, without having to info dump on them the entire gender spectrum. 2.… Read more »
Lito
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Your comparisons and reasonings are flawed. It’s not a simple matter of different views. Gay marriage is about human right and dignity. We can probably agree now that bigotry and any forms of it such as racism is wrong. If you turn someone away because of their race, we can probably agree it’s wrong and will likely face a backlash, unless you’re racist of course. When someone is open about their bigotry, you bet, that tree will not fall silently in the forest. The most egregious of your comparisons is rape. The dynamics with rape is around power and it’s… Read more »
benign0
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Are you saying then that people who do not agree with the notion of “same sex marriage” are bigots?

Pepe Rep
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I disagree Lito, gay marriage is not about human rights and dignity. Seriously? Governments do not confer human rights and as Justice Thomas rightly stated in his dissent, there is no “dignity clause” in the US Constitution. HUman rights are intrinsic. If marriage is about dignity, then people should’ve been hurrying to get married everywhere, but the reality is that most people today see marriage as remnant of an oppresive patriarchal system and rather not get involved. People who choose to be single and celibate have the same human rights and dignity as those who are married so what is… Read more »
Lawrence
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Just going to ask how you are so certain that “most people today see marriage as remnant of an oppresive patriarchal system and rather not get involved.” Was there a survey conducted? Did anyone run any polls? How can you properly assert this as “reality” with the lack of real data to back it up? Because if all you’re using as proof of this is the flooding of pro-single instagram and twitter content, I’m curious as to what the multi billion industry known as marriage has to say about that. As for singles getting the same rights as married couples,… Read more »
Pepe Rep
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Hi Lawrence! Thanks for your response. Look up Pew Social Trends. In 2014 they reported that a “Record Share of Americans Have Never Married: As Values, Economics and Gender Patterns Change”. In 1960, one in ten adults had never been married, today it is nearly one in five. Others note that “it’s odd that all the same leftists who think marriage is an evil patriarchal institution want its “dignity” extended to LGBT”. LOL, twitter and instagram for research? No need for insults, we are both adults here, we can discuss with maturity. Marriage is a unique institution and affording it… Read more »
Lawrence
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Thanks for the response Pepe Rep 🙂 After checking the research you mentioned, the statement “most people today see marriage as remnant of an oppressive patriarchal system and rather not get involved” doesn’t seem to have any support from said research. In fact, this is explicitly stated in the article: “Despite these mixed views about the role of marriage in society, Roughly half of all adults (47%) believe that this is very important, and an additional 21% consider it somewhat important.” This is in complete contradiction to your statement, as the combined total of 68% of adults still consider marriage… Read more »
Pepe Rep
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Hi again Lawrence! The survey results still reflect the waning desire of people to get legally married. “The share of never-married Americans has risen dramatically in the past five decades. Today, one-in-five Americans ages 25 and older have never been married, compared with just 9% in 1960…If current trends continue, 25% of young adults in the most recent cohort (ages 25 to 34 in 2010) will have never married by 2030. That would be the highest share in modern history.” It is clear we are headed towards a post-marriage culture. You asked for the survey/trends and I gave it to… Read more »
d_forsaken
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A concept is a brick. It can be used to build a courthouse of reason. Or it can be thrown through the window.

Ebola Ray
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@ Thaddeus Grimwald, why are you so hard on yourself? Why not just walk right up to the young Lady, smile, say ‘Hi,my name is Thaddeus, and would you like to go to the movies tonight? You see, I think you are just a lovely young Lady and I would be thrilled with your company.”,yes? Give it a shot.I bet she says: ‘Yes,I’d like that Thaddeus.”….Strike up the band ! IDK you, but I bet your not half as hideous as you imagine others think you are. Remember, people only see what you show them. Go for it ,dude. If… Read more »
Pepe Rep
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Hi Grimwald, I’m not sure if your characterization of gay marriage is accurate when you said you’re “certainly happy with the approval of same-sex marriage in the United States…people don’t need to be lonely anymore and can spend their lives with the people they love…can finally live happily under one roof and have their relationship legitimized” (that’s as mushy as the SCOTUS ruling), when it has already been legitimized in civil unions and afforded similar benefits. The questions really are (1) why government is in the marriage business in the first place, and (2) why does civil marriage discriminate against… Read more »
Mel
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I don’t understand why people get so worked up on this issue. Marriage is a private matter even for straight or heterosexual and if they decided to divorce, annul, open marriage is no one’s business but the couple. Whether the world like it or not, gay relationship is existing, living in one roof, doing what some people thought they shouldn’t be doing. Why do you care so much about these gays getting married if it doesn’t affect you? Who gave someone the right to be morally police? Some religious people call it sin, but if they are real Christians they… Read more »
LVM Malana
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Before same-sex marriage, let it be known first that there is third gender. Same-sex marriage won’t be a conflict if the society accepts the existence of third gender. Now if third gender is accepted, then they should also be entitled to the right of the male and female. But third gender should also function like the men or women in terms of productivity and upholding peace, dignity and order in the society. Also, nobody should cause gender confusion to a growing child. Everybody is born a male or a female. Let that kid grow as they are (a male or… Read more »
Lawrence
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While your set of questions is best answered by actual same sex couples, I have the following opinions to share, based on how I would answer if I were part of a nontraditional marriage: 1. What makes nonbiological gender not “normal”? 2. There would only be one set of parents: two people in love who decided to settle down together and raise a family. Why the need to segregate parents and families based on their biology? 3. The sanctity of marriage stays with the religion of the participants. Never force atheists or buddhists or any other person to conform to… Read more »
LVM Malana
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Lawrence, You said the term “nontraditional marriage” for same-sex marriage. I think that would be apt and also non-Christian and non-Muslim marriage. “1. What makes nonbiological gender not “normal”?” I guess it’s in your answer. The third gender is nonbiological, or not relating to birth. There’s only two sexes. Male and Female. Third gender arise when there’s been a “mistake” on assignment of gender roles (I think we have different meaning on “assignment”) meaning a female (mind) was born on a male body and a male was born in a female body. That’s what I understand with our psychology today… Read more »
pearl bethany
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It is the abuse of “Human Rights”……if it is their right, then it is also the right of other groups to express themselves, contrariwise to their own self opinions. It seems like they’ve gone over the edge emphasizing and brandishing their rights to the extent that they get violent. What is it” Force Makes Might?” It is Human Rights gone berserk. My Pastor said that those Judges just made America another Sodom & Gomorrah and he’s not far from the truth. That is his opinion and I quite agree with him. That is our right to express too, so they… Read more »
Just Passing Thru
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I’d just like to say that this is the first time EVER that I’ve commented on any blog sites (I don’t think FB posts from friends count, so yeah FIRST TIME EVER), so yeah. I’m leaving myself open to bashers. My mother (bless her amazing self) taught my 2 brothers and I that in life you can do anything you want as long as it doesn’t violate two rules: 1. Don’t hurt yourself and 2. Don’t hurt others. It’s very black and white I know, but it does eliminate ALOT of things (murder, theft, rape, bullying, discrimination, cheating, etc. etc.… Read more »
Kurt C
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The world is at the brink of (already at) WORLD WAR III, not trying to be righteous nor shoving my thoughts on anyone…..but I haven’t seen any effort from the general humanity in even trying to shove any sense to the drivers of this human catastrophe…….should anyone wait till this is at your doorsteps? Peace everyone….just my paranoias out loud.

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