Did the Dingdong Dantes-Marian Rivera wedding violate the Philippine Civil Code against ‘thoughtless extravagance’?

It was hard to ignore the recently-concluded nuptials of Philippine celebrity couple Dingdong Dantes and Marian Rivera. The news of their “royal wedding” was all over the local mainstream and social media. Their highly-anticipated wedding has been the talk of the town for months. The appearance of no less than Philippine President Benigno Simeon (BS) Aquino as the couple’s Witness of Honor probably helped build the hype even more. The country’s current who’s who were present during the celebration including queen of talk show and Presidential sister, Kris Aquino:

The GMA-7 actor arrived at the wedding venue in a black Ducati motorcycle, wearing a Randy Ortiz cream suit. Meanwhile, the stunning bride wore a Michael Cinco ecru lace wedding gown studded with Swarovski crystals and a pearl tiara.

President BS Aquino managed to find time out of his 'busy' schedule to grace the 'royal' occasion.
President BS Aquino managed to find time out of his ‘busy’ schedule to grace the ‘royal’ occasion.
While a lot of people were excited about the wedding celebration, I couldn’t help but feel a bit turned-off by the blatant display of decadence. There is no doubt that the telegenic couple looked beautiful on their “special day” but I couldn’t stop thinking about what the poor people are thinking about the extravagant celebration.

Why do some members of the Philippine elite feel the need to show off their wealth knowing millions of Filipinos suffer in abject poverty? I thought I was the only one who felt the wedding was over the top, but a lot of folks on Twitter agreed with my view that the excessive display of wealth left a bad taste in the mouth particularly since millions of Filipinos struggle to find their next meal everyday.

The venerable lawyer, Ferdinand Topacio even reminded us that there is a law against “thoughtless extravagance” specifically Article 25, Chapter 2: Human Relations under the Philippine Civil Code, which states:

Art. 25. Thoughtless extravagance in expenses for pleasure or display during a period of acute public want or emergency may be stopped by order of the courts at the instance of any government or private charitable institutions.

The country’s leading Forensic Pathologist Raquel Fortun who held the view that the 2 million peso wedding gown was excessive asked this question: “But what court will stop the wedding though?” What court, indeed? Especially since BS Aquino gave his blessing for the wedding to go ahead and had time for it despite his “busy” schedule. Likewise, motorists and commuters along E. Rodriguez and other streets near the Immaculate Conception Cathedral were even rerouted in Cubao, Quezon City during the big day.

Fortun also said that one can argue that “thoughtless extravagance” might be viewed as subjective since the Philippines is not in a “period of acute public want or emergency”. To which I responded that in my opinion, the Philippines has been in a permanent period of acute public want or emergency for a long time.

The below quote from a blogpost explains the concept behind the civil code:

1. Reason for Curtailing Thoughtless Extravagance

Thoughtless extravagance during emergencies may incite the passions of those who cannot afford to spend.

2. Who can Bring the Action?

Only a charitable institutions (whether government or private) may bring the action. The Mayor of a city, should he desire to stop an alleged display of extravagance by a social organization cannot summarily order the stopping all by himself. He has to ask for a court order. A Mayor indeed cannot just take the law into his own hands, no matter how noble or sincere his motive may be.

In the case of the Dingdong Dantes-Marian Rivera wedding, hardly anyone from the public complained about the excesses during the celebration. And it was obvious that no one was going to stop the event for the wedding of the year.

This brings us to the part where the author of the Civil Code failed to consider the fact that sadly, Filipinos in general do not see anything wrong with “thoughtless extravagance in expenses for pleasure or display during a period of acute public want or emergency.” A lot of Filipinos even go gaga over the actions of the elite who act like members of the royal family.

There are times when I thought that the decadence of the Philippine elite will somehow push the masses over the edge into finally storming the country’s gated communities. But I don’t think Filipinos have it in them to demand for a sense of decency from people who can make a difference in their future. Until then, those who suffer from abject poverty will remain where they are. How they can live in miserable state is beyond me. It seems their wretched existence is not enough to make them rebel against excess.

[Photo courtesy GMA Network.]

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toman
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brace yourself for the “walang basagan ng trip” and “pera naman nila yan” comments from the usual myopic suspects.=)

BloodyOrchid
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Bakit? You prefer people saying pera ng bansa ginamit nyan?

bitterkayo
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Bakit pera mo ba?

Moni
Guest

Chill…it’s called “perspective”; Thoughtless Extravagance”? – just like it’s no different from people who spent thousands for firecrackers last January 1.

Pedong
Guest

Brace yourself for the bitter quotes. Ones like this.

reader
Guest

i saw a post online on the wedding invitaion that they prefer that instead of wedding gifts or cash, the guest shall give a donation to the groom’s favored charitable institution, complete with details on how to donate. i like this blog but hey you missed out on that detail, and the expensive wedding gown has a high prpbability that it was just borrowed frpm the designer in exchange for publicity, and who knows who owns and how long the groom has had his ducati.

Irvin
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The act of charity is a noble act yes, plus points for that, but I can’t for the life of me imagine a 2 million peso wedding gown be “borrowed”, especially by a couple that can probably afford it due to being celebrities and all. I may be wrong, but benefit of the doubt. With all due respect this is justifying the speculations of their extravagance.

What?
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I don’t care if it’s a wedding gown from Divisoria or a wedding gown created by Monique Lhuillier, just as long as they paid it with their own money, what’s wrong with that? It will be appalling if the daughter of Napoles (pork barrel lady) is the one displaying the “extravagance”. But this couple worked hard for their own keep and if they want to throw all their money in a once-in-a-lifetime wedding, so be it. IT’S THEIR OWN MONEY…you wouldn’t want anyone dictating how you spend your own money, would you?

BloodyOrchid
Guest

Totally agree with you there.

Cedie
Guest

I AGREE!

Angel
Guest

Big Check…Sir bitter guard should have been cook and eaten.

Pedong
Guest

Exactly.

chrys
Guest

Agree!!
Daming bitter. Pera nilang pinaghirapan yan. they have been preparing for this big day for many years. D pa ba sapat na tumutulong sila?? Ganyan ang mga pinagpapala, kung ano gaano man kalaki ang itinulong mo doble pa ang babaliks u. Ano naman ang gusto nyo lahat ng kita nila ipamigay na lang??? Aba, eh magtrabaho para kumita db? D yung sisilipin mo yung kita ng iba tapos magiging issue.
Galing ba sa pera ng bayan yan?? Karapatan nilang gastusin ang perang pinaghirapan nila sa kanilang kaligayahan mga pinoy!
Gising at imulat ang mga mata!

AIMforBetter
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I agree with you buddy.

joey driver
Guest

Irvin, that is common practice. Here in the US designers, jewelers let celebrities use their wares for a mentionon the red carpet during the Oscar, Tony award and other events

Ney
Guest

Agree.

Gorge
Guest

The ducati was given to Dong by his wife 3 years ago. This write up is stupid

belle
Guest

I really got pissed off when I saw Mr. Aquino with the couple. There are lots of more important issues in the Philippines that needs to be taken care of.

samantha
Guest

pakealam ni pnoy sa opinion mo?

Heart
Guest

lol onga naman pake ni Pnoy sayo.

belle
Guest

Just like I said, that just my opinion. I have the freedom and I don’t care if Pnoy cares in what I have to say,

belle
Guest

That’ s just my personal opinion, Ms. I’m just curious how come Pnoy still has time with his “busy schedule”.

dull
Guest

Filipinos does not own Pnoy.. He’s our president, not our slave.. He also has a life. Don’t he deserve a break? We all have our day offs right? And we all have the right to spend that day the way we wanted to.

jan
Guest

not because Pnoy is our president doesnt mean he cant attend to his personal “lakad” uso rin na may rest day ang pangulo even if he runs the gov’t
and if he choose to spend to attend the wedding what’s wrong with that???

Siraulo!
Guest

So pag presidente ka ng bansa deprived ka na mag attend ng mga ganitong event? Te. Wala kang sense. Pangarap mo ba sumikat kaya nagmamarunong ka ng bongga? Animal. English lang pagkagawa mo. Pero stupid ang opinion mo. If you have it and you worked hars for it then go ahead and flaunt the fuck up. Wag kasing inggetera.

HariNgTondo
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Mga bobo .. hindi xa naiingit .. bakit xa maiingit ? baka ikaw ang naiingit ?! HAHA .. ibig nya sabihin .. bakit may oras si pnoy umattend ng wedding ..kung ang mahal nyang pilipinas ay nag hihirap araw araw may namamatay sa gutom .. isang katutak ang skwater .. previous president nakakulong haha !

snow
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Alam ko bawal umatend ng wedding mga huwes,pero hinde rin nila maiwasan,,nway, ang mga pinoy likas na maawainat likas na mapanglait din… gumawa ka nman ng mabuti o masama laging may nasasabe pa rin. CONGRATS DINGDONG AND MARIAN

Pedong
Guest

As if he wasted his all day on that freakin’ wedding. Masyado kayong perfectionist sa lahat ng bagay akala mo kaya kung sino.

bitterkayo
Guest

TONTA BAKET BAWAL MAG REST DAY? O AYAN OPINYON KO DIN YAN IKAW ANG PINAKA TONTA SA BUONG MUNDO

SHIZAAAAAAA
Guest

Sorry, but your opinion is ALL CRAP AND NO SUBSTANCE.

Fact.

QWERTYU
Guest

And yours too FACT!

What?
Guest

Huh??? President Obama is also a very, very busy man but I saw him attending weddings too. So what’s wrong with a President attending weddings? Does it mean that he attended a high-profile wedding he’s remiss with his duties already. Oh, c’mon!!!

Jem
Guest

Kung maging President ka kaya? Hindi mo ba gugustuhin magkaroon ng kahit na isang araw ng bakasyon??? Baka mabaliw ka??LOL

oli
Guest

Bawal ba? Wala bang break sa trabaho ang presidente? Kung si lord nga linggo may araw pa ng pahinga e

Gorge
Guest

The first issue being you, you are just bitter

chrys
Guest

The president has a private life. It doesnt mean that being a president wala na ring private agenda.

renzo
Guest

what can u say about the marcoses???

renzo
Guest

biased as usual and not credible at all.

Irvin
Guest

I think these people who “don’t see it” are already conditioned to endure “suffering” due to their unfortunate circumstances in poverty, further compounded by the “god will provide” and “if it’s meant to be then it is” mindset propagated by religion and media. This is why I abhor the notion of relying solely on prayer to get anything in life. It dismisses and devalues hard work and effort. I personally have this certain level of apathy, but good for them for getting hitched anyway.

Peter Vandever
Guest

Because not being poor is a crime to many. 🙂

What?
Guest

Agree!

bitterkayo
Guest

Miserable kasi buhay nila lalo na ni writer kaya gusto nila lahat ng tao katulad nila wala ng makain

juan
Guest

I can blame you if that is what you think. but the way i see it. They have all the rights to do it, they work hard for their success, afterall, its just a shot event so why not make the best of it if you can afford. Moreover, the couples have been consistently donating to charities on and off the camera… As my mentor always says, hindi mo kasalanan na pinanganak ka ng mahirap pero kasalanan mo kapag namatay kang mahirap…

maria
Guest

correct. big check kuya. nagsumikap sila bago nla maabot yung kaya nlang gawin. and hndi naman kailngan ipublic kapag natulong ka sa tao. grabe.

che
Guest

Big check…. Hnd kasalanan ni dingdong at Marian na mghirap sila. Kasalanan nila kc hnd sila ngsikap. Problema kc sa iba pgtinulungan mo aasa nlng sa tulong hnd na gagawa ng paraan pra mkaahon sila sa khirapan.

chrys
Guest

Tama ka talaga!
Yan ang mga bitter sa pangyayari. Gusto nila idonate ng couple ang lahat ng kita nila. Mga hunghang, hahaha!
Ang mga mayayaman (hindi lahat) nagsusumikap para maabot ang kanilang pinapangarap. Sabi nga ang pagiging mahirap choice natin yan!
I love you comment che!

Cedie
Guest

True!

Boinks
Guest

Please consider the fact that the poor benefits on the taxes paid by these elites. And besides, aminin naman natin, most filipinos are poor dahil tamad tayo. We are a happy nation, yes! But r we any good with regard to making our lives better? I am class c (and below), so i know how my people work. 🙂

iampoorbutrich
Guest
Hindi dahil sa katamaran kaya’t naghihirap ang mga Pinoy. Yung mga magsasaka, mahirap lang sila. Pero masasabi mo bang tamad sila kung umulan o umaraw ay nagsasaka sila? Yung mga simpleng employees, nagoover time sila at kahit may sakit pumapasok yung iba, pero kulang na kulang pa rin yung sinesweldo nila sa isang buwan. Sabihin mo ngayon, tamad pa rin ba ang sila? O wala lang Equality? Kasi sa panahon ngayon, kahit anong gawin mong hirap, ang hirap hirap pa ring umangat lalo na kung galing ka sa di kilalang pamilya. Ang hirap bumangon sa hirap. Kung di mo naranasang… Read more »
gerald
Guest
Pano ba namam sa single income ka pala naka focus talagang hindi kakasya kahit anong sipag at overtime mo… Tumanda ka ng kulang ka sa TAMANG DISKARTE SA BUHAY. Alam mo na ngang kulang kinikita mo eh! Ano dapat gagawin mo? Mag reklamo at ididiin na masipag ka nga pero wala pdn? Gamitin mo isip mo kasi. Piece of advice: mag hanap ka ng extra income, wag mo iasa sa single income ang lahat ng gastusin mo.. wag mo tipirin dagdagan mo para mag kasya kasi kahit anong gawin mo ang kulang laging magiging kulang.. kung feeling mo hnd kasya… Read more »
Siraulo!
Guest

Pag pinanganak kang mahirap kasalanan ng magulang mo yan. Pero pag namatay kang mahirap kasalanan mo yan. Sus naman. Ang daming mahirap na gumanda ang buhay dahil sa magandang diskarte. Ang daming paraan para umasenso. Hindi ubra sakin mga rants niyo na tax etc. Ang nanay ko sa squatter nakatira noon. Pinaaral niya sarili niya at ngayon doctor siya. Without having to blame anyone sa sacrifices niya. Pag naghihirap ang tao maghahanap ng sisisihin. Hello? Ano nganga nalang for life??

chrys
Guest

Oo nga, alam mo tama din yung mga reply sa comment mo. Wag kang umasa sa iisang income. Diskarte lang yan, ako nga mag isang binubuhay ang 3 kong anak. Security po ako pero nakakaya ko. D natin dapat isisi sa kanila ang buhay natin kasi nasa atin din yun eh.

Ito baka makatulong sa yo, basahin mo lang:

http://bosanchezmembers.com/amember/go.php?r=52522

Sacri
Guest

Wala silang social awareness? mas IDIOT ka pa sa IDIOT kung ganun.

Wala ka atang alam eh.

saelynne
Guest

@iampoorbutrich What you said is really true. There are lots of people who get treated deferentially or ride on the coattails of their family name or because of the fact that they are mestiza or mestizo; or actors and actresses.

Marc
Guest

I admire you for what you said Boinks

ChinoF
Member

It’s more like these Filipinos have the concept that, if you show your wealth, you should cause inconveniences for others. I don’t mind a show of wealth that does not inconvenience others.

rebecca
Guest

Bakya and colonial mentality , sad

Boinks
Guest

eh napaka gago naman pala talaga ng nagsulat neto! Kaya hindi umaasenso ang pilino dahil sa mga gaya ninyo na wala ng ginawa kung hindi paasahin ang mga mahihirap sa buwis ng mayayaman, sa tulong ng mayayaman at na dapat obligahin ang mayayaman na palamunin ang mga mahihirap? Subukan mo kayang mag post ng article na maguudyok sa mahihirap na magtrabaho, maging independent, maging empowered na magsikap sa sarili? Talagang asa na lang sa iba ang peg, ano?

Cedie
Guest

True!

AIMforBetter
Guest

Agree ako diyan sa sinabi mo bro na magsulat ang writer na to ng mga articles na mag uudyok sa mga mahihirap na magsumikap, magtrabaho at diskartehan ang buhay para umasenso.

Kaya maraming naghihirap eh dahil bine brainwash ng mga ganitong article.

mrlon
Guest

Should have posted this before the wedding took place. Many of us don’t know such laws existed. But I agree with some views here, BS Aquino got time for this? He should have declined like any other leaders would do.

belle
Guest

I agree with you, sir.

What?
Guest

Really???? I saw Obama attending weddings also who is also a very, very busy man. Your argument “like any other leaders would do” is a complete generalization and therefore false. And don’t give me that crap that Aquino is a different president because the Philippines is a third-world country.

WinterSoldier
Guest

Indeed it was. Unlike the Philippines, America have a better system and a better culture. Go figure.

dull
Guest

Pnoy is a human being. He has a life. He is our president, not our slave.

WinterSoldier
Guest

And PNoy is our president, not a god or king that you always worship. Go figure.

jarvis
Guest

who the f%$% said anything about pnoy being a god or king?

Siraulo!
Guest

Lol pota. Daming alam. Kayo maging presidente para matigil kayo. Kahit sino naman ilagay niyo sa Malacañang hindi matatapos reklamo niyo. Bitterness ba to kasi di kayo invited sa wedding??

WinterSoldier
Guest

Your username fits even more since you’re missing the point.

Noynoy is a PUBLIC SERVANT, not a god or king. You’re bitter since you’re BUTTHURT. 😛

EwanKoSaInyo
Guest

exactly! public servant not public slave. pero bakit kung makapagsalita kayo parang empleyado niyo si PNOY na kailangan ipaalam pa o kailangan pang humingi ng permiso sa inyo para maka punta sa isang event.. tao rin siya he has his own life di porque public servant siya pwede na natin siyang dictahan… even the president of america umaattend ng kasal eh..

dee
Guest

Tanga lang?

ritchie calo
Guest

They consider their wedding as a very important event in their life so why not go and splurge when you have the means and they have rightfully earned it (and I’m sure they have been rightfully taxed for it). Your observation/critique is best applicable to most politicians who show extravagance using OUR money.

ingrid
Guest

wala nman tlgang masama. heller hnd nila kasalanan na ipanganak silang maganda at gwapo at i-idolize ng madameng tao. hnd ko isisisi kay marian at dingdong na mahirap ako. ishow man nila or hnd ang yaman nila eh mayaman nman tlga sila. wla nga cguro sa kalingkingan ng yaman nila ang ginastos nila sa kasal na yan. may karapatan silang i-spent ang pera na pinaghirapan nila. be considerate guyz. kung mahirap ka magsumikap ka! hnd puro nganga!

alexa
Guest

i don’t think there’s something wrong with their wedding. if they spent millions on their wedding its simply because they just wanted to make their wedding a very memorable one. and there’s really nothing wrong about it they spent their own money and mind you the money that they will be receiving from their sponsors, they will donate it to foundations.. eeeewww haaa.. nakakainis ka rin… palagay ko naiinggit ka lang.. they did a lot of charitable works meaning hindi sila maramot sa kanilang yaman

Cedie
Guest

True!

samantha
Guest

dami naman kasing sinasabi ng pilipino. well for me, oo maraming naghihirap, pero yung pera naman na ginastos nila e pera nila yun, so walang pakiaman ang pinoy dun. 2nd sa pagdalo ni pnoy, e malay naman nila kung kasama talaga sa skedyul ni pnoy yun, at hindi naman sya everyweek na punta sa kasal, so i think break time muna din nya.

dela cruz
Guest
malay ba nila kung buong buhay nila inipon nila para makamit yung kasal na ganun. kung un bang mga naghihirap e nagsisikap. edi sana walang mahirap, kaya naman nagiging mayaman ang mayayaman, kasi takot sila maghirap, eh yung mga mahihirap ano ang bukambibig, kaya nila maghirap, mas madalas nga makikita mo pa na nakatambay lang ang mahihirap kaysa magsikap. magparami ng anak, at magsugal kanan kaliwa. puro reklamo naman kasi mga tao, gusto ng pagbabago, pero hindi handang tumanggap ng mga panibagong nangyayari sa bansa. gusto maging maganda ang serbisyo ng LRT/MRT, pero ayaw taasan ang pamasahe, kahit saang bansa… Read more »
Cedie
Guest

True!

la la
Guest

This is stupid. Lol wasted my time readin a one sided article. It’s their wedding and it’s one of the most special event n their lives. If I was rich, I would do the same thing. They can do whatever they want. And just because some people are in poverty doesn’t mean you would hold back to the things you wanted in life for example to have your dream wedding come true. It’s their money and they worked hard to earn it. Stfu and and stop hating.

Cedie
Guest

True!

bitter
Guest

bitter 😀 hahahhahah make your own extravagant wedding

WinterSoldier
Guest

You’re one who’s bitter since you’re… BUTTHURT. 😀

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