They say that Filipinos are a happy people. Well, I’m going to call bullshit on that because honestly, they may smile but the smile is either them pretending to be okay or worse, a sign of their own delusion. Their own way of convincing themselves that their problems will just solve themselves. To be honest, the whole claim of Filipinos being a “resilient” people is nothing more than a lie since they are all too often the kind of people who will be the first to scatter at the sign of trouble and betray their own to the enemy when it suits them as proven to us by the Aquino family time and time again.
However, just why is it that Filipinos can’t find true happiness?
Well, I’ve already said my piece about honesty so now I’m going to tell you possibly the second biggest reason Pinoys aren’t happy: “Expectation”
Thing is, as my counselor told me and as I’ve learned time and time again, one of the chief reasons of unhappiness and discontentment is the excessive amounts of expectation they tend to have. Now, it’s okay to expect good results out of hard work and a hefty reward for a difficult or dangerous task. However, it’s an entirely different story to demand big things for the smallest of efforts.
The sad truth is that a lot of Filipinos are immature at heart and have the expectations of young children. Based on what I’ve observed, this kind of expectation easily ties in with Pinoys’ fairy tale mindset and magical thinking, believing that they will be granted privileges and gifts for lackluster efforts. Worse, there are those who are too entitled to understand that the best things in life are usually only given to those willing to make the effort for them and are not simply handed out like cheap candy.
As I’ve come to observe, most crimes in the Philippines are all too often the result of this excessive expectation. People expect too much from life and, when life refuses to give them what they want, they steal and, when people resist, they are all too often willing to kill just to get what they want. Rape in and of itself is a different, more complicated story but, if you really want to get down to the basics, it’s just a guy who isn’t getting enough action but isn’t willing to make the effort to earn enough to get what they actually want.
Now, you may say that it’s unfair to say that Pinoys are the only people in the world guilty of excessive expectation but we’re probably the only people who are all too willing to take it so far. Indeed, over the years, we’ve brought forth and ousted great leaders simply because they weren’t able to fulfill many of our expectations. In the end, like children, we’re all to quick to dismiss something or someone for their uselessness or harshness even though we’ve yet to fully understand both their capabilities and benefits.
Worse still is our media which all too often banks too much on unrealism to begin with. That’s why I suppose we have many singers who can’t sing, dancers who can’t dance and actors who can’t act and are simply just banking on their good-looks rather than anything else. We expect celebrities to be virtual deities to people rather than the entertainers they’re just supposed to be. We’ve all been deceived by the flash and distraction of Pinoy showbiz to expect everything to be perfect even when they clearly can’t be so.
The day that the Filipino people will find true happiness is when they discover for themselves that there is more to the world than just what they want. That the best things in life come from a willingness to make the best out of things that don’t seem at all that great at first glance but can be made to become something greater by exploring its potentials.
My greatest fear is that when the right person comes along, the right person with the right skills and know-how to get out of the mess we’re in, we’ll be too preoccupied with how they look or behave to believe in them, whoever they may be…
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